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wierd kid
i im 25 i live with my 2 other brothers i had a real sluty sis and she had a kid but she died 6 years ago but this kid is so weird i mean like what kind of a 7 year old dosent like disney land ? and then shes really seilent and wont really open up to us i love her alot but did i go wrong some where ? ive never spanked her (shes never done any really bad) and sometimes we see her crying outside when we cheer her up she crys evan harder and she has nightmares at night and crawls into maxs bed but when we ask whats wrong she runs off what should i do'
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Even if your niece was a year old when her mom (your sister) died, it can still have psychological effects on a person even that young. She may not remember her mom nor miss her. Her conscious mind may not know. But our subconscious minds pick up a lot of information, our subconscious is also where are our emotions come from. So it is entirely possible that even though she was too young to be aware of losing her mom at the time, it had its effect. There is a special need a new born baby needs. It needs love and touch and being held and talked to a lot when it is young.
Studies were done in a University, a government paid program way back maybe in the 60's to discover why so many babies were dying. Adoption may not have been popular yet and There were more babies than adoptive couples, many were orphans. These babies were so many that they didn't get all the amount of individual touch and love even though all their needs were met, diapers changed, fed, clothed. But they still were dying. The subconscious mind picks up things even at that young an age. Here's another example. My husband is a highly functioning autistic. It means he can function well in society but there are still times when he gets an overload of sensory input. As a newborn and the first child to his parents, the intensity of his mom's love for him was too much when held by her, it was painful and hurt him inside and he would scream and scream until someone else held him, anyone could even dad. But this is just an example that at such a young age, other than my husband, babies know their mothers love, they were carried by her for 9 months before birth, know the sound of her voice and her love and touch feels different than anyone elses. Neither you nor I are professionals in psychology. No matter how much love and attention you or the uncles give her, she is going to have issues and will not even know why she has it. All I can suggest is that you get her to a counselor. There are counselors that specialize in working with children. So, no you are not doing anything wrong and likely there is nothing you can do that would help much.
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