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im 12 and im monving again im depressed doing self harm ,im bullied reallyy bad like being shoved into lockers and beating me up bad ,also i feel like ive toren my famile apart and i just want this to stop and i dont know what to do !
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I'll start with your last statement and work back.
I have no idea why you might feel that you are the cause of your family being torn apart. There are no details given as to why you believe that to be so with examples. It's the same like me telling you "I feel like I have caused my family to turn to crime." If you have no idea how I came to that conclusion in my mind, you won't be able to see whether there is a connection or not. I was once your age and so I know at that age, often our feelings are more of jumping to conclusions than being totally accurate. I'd need to know more to give any advice on this topic.
Next, thanks for the examples of what kind of bullying. Some think people making faces or frowning at them is bullying, so this helps. Being shoved or beat up should not be tolerated in school because it is not tolerated in regular society. If another person lays a hand on you with intent to hurt you physically, that is 'assault and battery' and can be something like hitting, taking a punch at someone, pulling hair, any type of physical harm to another person. Police are supposed to be called into a situation like this. However as rampant as bullying is, I think the schools like to have the chance to handle this themselves first to try and resolve it. So... This is something that needs to be reported to the people in authority in your life right now like your parents and school authorities. Your parents need to contact school authorities to hold these kids responsible. If the parents won't do it, or don't believe you, then you talk to the principle and if that doesnt help, then you yourself contact the police. Try to keep a record of on what days the incidents occured, who attacked you, their names and what exactly they did to you.
Lastly, being depressed because you are moving again, is understandable. Is the cutting making the depression go away? I doubt it. Maybe it distracts you for a short while, another pain to cancel out the first pain, that's like fighting fire with fire and has the potential to snowball out of control that technique is meant to gain and actually become a bigger blaze or for you a more complicated problem. So I dont think I need to tell you its not going to really help.
Because of your age, I must ask if you are going through puberty right now, starting your cycle. The reason being that these days, a good majority of teen girls have lots of female hormones already in their bodies from being absorbed in our toxic environment so when the same hormones are starting to be produced by your body, it becomes an overload of hormones which cause girls personalities to totally change, become mean and angry, violent and finally depressed. This can all be corrected by seeing a doctor . I have read a few reports on line. Society as a whole hasn't become too aware of this yet as it's not being reported in general media like TV, radio, newspaper/magazines. But it's very real, my two nieces one from each my sisters are experiencing these problems and begging to go see a doctor. They both are feeling depressed. Depression can be due to what's happening in ones life like having to move again, family problems, etc... but you have the choice as to how you will respond to this. Only problem is that at your age, the frontal part of the brain able to help you think thru situations and decisions and your feelings and response is not mature yet and won't be fully complete until your mid twenties. Its like that for every human being. So I am guessing that some girls who bully may be due to immature brain and not having been trained to not do so or go against what they have been told or their hormones could be responsible for their being out of control. Thinking back when I was your age, I knew many girls who were very mean and bitchy, there's lots fewer who seem to be calm in control and pleasant. I hope this gives you some understanding into your situation.
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