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Penis Size? Open Relationship?
Hello. I am a young 22 year old male and have a concern about penis size. Now, most likely I just need confidence in myself and/or assurance, but still I'd thought I'd ask and hopefully get some educated answers and insight.
Well, I'm 22 and my penis is around 5-5.5 in. when fully erected, and when flaccid sometimes 1-3 inches. Would you say that's normal or average?
Honestly, I think it's average for me. Now, I'm kind of a chubby guy so would losing weight help add more length or something? Does any form of medicine help increase it?
Now, reason for my concern. I'm sort of seeing this girl and well, guess it's kind of a complicated open relationship and well she thinks I'm small for her. We've openly talked about previous sex partners we each had and well, guess a majority of her previous sex partners were quite well endowed down there. Like she's been with guys who were like 8-11 in. big around the age of 19-20 and I'm sitting there finding it hard to believe that's possible. I am able to please her, but there are times where she comments on my size and I think to myself she's just joking, even says she is, but sometimes it kind of gets to me.
We even went to a book store and explored the sexuality section and read that the average size is like 5 inches, and then she goes ahead and guesses average must be small to her then, but isn't sure of herself though, but the way she says it makes me think she prefers them big and kind of worries me?
So what's a good healthy mind set I should keep? I really like her and am trying my best to try and make her trust relationships again, that way we can be something exclusive to each other..
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Your length is normal.
Loosing weight will not make it bigger.
Medication cannot make it bigger.
As for a healthy mindset, the first thing you could do is ask her to help you out and not make comments about your dick size, because it's not cool, even as jokes. Joking about another person's body can be hurtful, and should be avoided unless you are certain it'll be taken as light fun.
Then you should maybe not be in an open relationship, if what you want is an exclusive one. Frankly, I'd guess a lot of your stress and worry steams from the fact that you'd like a kind of relationship and commitment that you aren't getting. It's actually a way, WAY bigger deal if she prefers a kind of relationship agreement that doesn't work for you, then if she prefers a larger penis.
I think the other columnists have been unduly harsh on your girlfriend. There is nothing immature, or 'wrong' with preferring a larger penis on your partner (and people who don't have vaginas should perhaps hold off on commenting on what different experiences feel like) anything more than there is something wrong with preferring blonds, or tattoos or big breasts. We aren't in perfect control of what bodies attract us sexually, but in a relationship you have to accept the whole package with love and respect even if they don't fit some sort of sexual ideal for you. If that isn't happening for you, then she might not be in a place to be in a good, healthy relationship with you. Your mindset isn't going to change her behaviour.
It's sweet that you are concerned about her pleasure and her ability to trust, but don't forget your own needs. What you need from a relationship to feel happy and secure is at least as important as what she needs. If her needs are being met at the expense of yours, then a healthy mindset isn't going to do you much good.
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Your girlfriend is immature. If you are able to satisfy her then you have accomplished the basic goal of what you set out to do. As you can see by the survey results the average vagina can only accommodate a penis 5 to 6 inches in length. Anything longer is either going to be punching her cervix on each stroke or is going to be left out. Of course in anal sex she would probably be able to accommodate a longer penis if she is in to anal sex that is.
When you come right down to it the male penis has two functions; to allow the male to urinate and to impregnate the female. Sexual satisfaction of the women is something that is relatively new and is only something our species is concerned with. Sexually satisfying of the female only truly came about after WWII. That is not to say it was part of a marriage before then or it was not part of dating rituals. It may have been; it just wasn't a topic of conversation as it is today. At least not in polite society as it would have been said at the time.
If you are able to sexually satisfy her and bring her to orgasm. Then she is being immature and rude to ridicule you on the size of your penis. I'm sure she would not like it if you said something derogatory about her vagina and it would be rude of you to do so; especially if she was able to bring you to climax. I would tell her that and then give her the big kiss off and find a woman who appreciates a man who is kind and caring for the women he is sleeping with.
You’re not the one with any problems, she is.
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Your penis is normal. Well within the normal range. If your gf thinks that porn or her vibrator are a good guide to normal size, she's wrong.
Don't put up with disrespect and snide comments directed at your member. Oh, and don't be tempted to respond in kind about her stretched-out pussy. It never plays out well.
At the end of the day, if she can't learn a little basic courtesy, or thinks that courtesy is unnecessary in a relationship, then this one ain't a keeper. If anyone needs some advice, she does.
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