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Banned from seeing boyfriend
I'm a 15 year old girl, and my boyfriend is 17. We've been dating for 6 months, which I know is a short while for what we did.
A few days ago, we were fooling around (not having sex) and we got really worried that I might be pregnant. Looking back on it, there was absolutely no way that it could have happened, but we got concerned and purchased a Plan B pill. For some reason, I saved the receipt and my mom found it. She got highly upset and yelled for a while, refusing to listen to my apologies or let me explain what happened. Then, she made me tell my dad explicitly what happened between my boyfriend and I and then forced me to break up with him, and to never see or talk to him again.
I know that this seems a lot like teen angst and maybe it is, but I haven't had the energy or motivation to get up or do anything except sleep or cry ever since it happened. I know that I shattered my parents' trust and that I broke their hearts, and I can't begin to tell them how sorry I am for that.
I know that regaining my parents' trust is my first priority, and that after that I may be allowed to see him again. What can I do to show them that I'm truly sorry, and that I am a child that can be trusted?
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Hi! I know how tough this is to have your parent screaming at you all the time. To regain their trust, just act perfect in front of them (and for best results act like that all the time, like at school and stuff when school starts). My advice for the situation: Do what you're supposed to, and everything will clear up. My personal advice to you as a person: Don't focus on what's wrong, focus on what's right and watch your days become clearer. I hope I helped!
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This is going to take time. One reason you are banned from seeing your boyfriend is your parents know that he is at the very least 50% responsible for what they assume happened.
There is no way to prove to your parents you still a virgin if you're a virgin. Even your doctor cannot tell. All a doctor can tell them is whether or not your Hymen is still intact. A missing Hymen does not mean a girl is not longer a virgin. Also your parents, now that you are 15 cannot force this type of examination on you for under a law called HIPPA you have total confidentiality over your reproductive system. No doctor will perform this procedure unless you consent.
Give your parents some time to recover from what they assume happened. while you're waiting for them to calm down you can earn their trust back by being where you say you will be. If you go someplace else call and get permission. Be home when you say you will be home or when you are told to be home. If for some reason you are going to be late call and tell them. Be helpful around the house without being asked.
You did good by not trying to lie your way out of this such as say it wasn't for you but you purchased it for a girl friend. This has to be points in your favor. As the saying goes; time heals all wounds and time will heal this. Just give mom & da time to calm down then you can talk to them about what has happened just do not rush it as this is one of those wounds that they will need more time to get over than other types of wounds.
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