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I wanna hang out with my mom (this is important for me so please just read)
I don't care if it sounds lame,I just do. And by that I mean without my sister, or brother, or dad, just with her. But she's always busy. She goes to work monday-Friday, and she doesn't have one of those jobs where you take summers off. Also Tuesday and Thursday she has to go to court reporter school. And on weekends she is always shopping, or going to the laundry mat, or cleaning the house. And when I try to go to the store with her My sister starts whining on how it was supposed to be a “me and mommy day" and I end up staying home because I know she'll cry the entire day. I remember when I was an only child and got her undivided attention, and when I had only one sibling, who was born perfectly normal so I still got some attention, but once my brother came along, and we found out he is special, so he kinda gets most the attention now. And it just seems silly to tell my mom I wanna play a game, or watch a movie with her when she needs to do that with my brother because he needs to interact or whatever, and I just wanna do it. I'd say my brother gets 80%, my sister %15 and me %5. And that's just needs, like driving me to school, or other places, making meals, etc... and night won't help, because she has to put my siblings to sleep, and although my sister is 4, here's the routine: mom puts her to sleep. Then some time passes. Then she wakes up and goes to my mom amd makes her sleep with her. mom says I always hated sleeping with her. I always wanted to be in the crib (or my bed when I got it). I was always the independent one who can do mostly everything for myself, so I guess my mom thinks I don't need anybody. But i want her. I'm embarrassed because this is so long so I'll stop here.
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Don't be embarrassed you took the space you needed to so we could understand you problem.
It is understandable why you would want some alone time with your mother especially if you are a girl. There are just some things a girl cannot talk about with their dad. Even boys need some alone time with their mom but girls especially as they go through puberty need this special time with mom.
From what you have written mom definitely has her hands full with your siblings and you know that. Still to grow into a young lady you need your mom to show you the way. You have in your own words proven to your mom that you're somewhat independent and capable of caring for yourself. Understand mom sees this as a helpful blessing and is waiting for you to come to her when you need her or have questions. Otherwise with you remaining silent she is probably feeling you are doing fine and she just keeps an eye on you.
What I suggest is this. In that time after the little ones go to bed and before you go to bed. Go to mom and tell her you need some "me" time with her. Ask her if it is possible to take a vacation or sick day and the two of you spend the day shopping or goofing off away from the younger kids. So you and she can just talk and maybe get a Burger or pizza together.
If I am right in what I am thinking about your mom and how she sees you; this is what she is waiting for. If she has the vacation or sick day I'm sure she will make it happen. If she doesn't I trust she will find a way to give you some "me" time with her.
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