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i love him but i couldn't say
am a high school senior, i am so
worried that my feeling to this boy i
love is going to show b/c i don't
want any body to know even though
its killing me inside! i know he
loves me b/c he asked me to be his
girl friend way before and we
talk,but not in person its by e-mail
b/c when he sees me he is so shy
even to say "hi" b/c i rejected his
question eventhough i wanted to
say yes so bad, but when i did that i
told him that we could be friends or
even best friends.so i should have
been the one talking to him b/c he
is my classmate and am not
shy ,that was who i should have
been, but i love him too that i also
get nervous to talk to him so i think
he feels bad coz am avoiding him to
talk to him by e-mail too but my
reason is that it feels so awkward to
talk by e-mail then not talk in
person. its really easy to talk to
other boys in my class but its hard
to even call his name, but you know
what i want to be able to talk to him
as a friend but he is always with his
friends and i am too thats one of
the reason we both get shy i guess
b/c everybody knows he asked me
to be his girlfriend so they all make
fun of us and i think thats how i got
feelings for him in the first place b/
c of every body telling me about
him, they always make fun of me
saying he is my husband and
sometimes they tell me that we fit
each other and being sure that we
will get married in the future. and
if they see us talk i think they will
laugh so hard, with that being said i
am willing to talk to him as normal
friends b/c i couldn't be more than
that for many reasons but i never
got a chance to find him alone i
always wishesd,prayed, to find him
alone but there it has been 1 years
i did't get a chance. if he had never
asked to be his girlfriend things
would have been great between us
as good friends b/c even our
families are close friends so we
could have got a chance to talk to
each other, but now i don't know
what to do please if you have any
suggestion.......help!!!
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Hi there! Although you say you're scared it might show I'd say the reaction of your friends and the 'husband'/'made for each other' type comments mean it already shows to the outside observer. Thing about guys...it takes a lot of nerve to ask a girl to be your girlfriend, and if she says no, and she'd like to 'just be friends' (he'll take that as 'Hey you're sweet...but FANCY you? NO CHANCE!)it's a real old blow to his ego and a severe knock-back. He's reacted with a little shyness (far better than some, who might be nasty and bad-mouth you when they're effectively 'rejected'). Faced with awkwardness and shyness it would be amazing if you WEREN'T a bit shy and awkward in return, however confident a person you otherwise are. There's a very definite and strong vibe coming from what you've written (it's a thing you can spot from rhythms and dynamics of the writing and 'style', not hocus-pocus or mystic powers). You're bloody CRAZY about him, aren't you? You chat via email, right? Somehow you've got to arrange a one-to-one meeting and really steel yourself to tell him how you feel. Just let it all pour out. Forget about looking stupid or what YOU think HE will think. Once you start it'll come easier...it's like building your nerve up as a kid to go on a scary amusement park ride...once you're on the car starts rolling it's too late to go back...you're on for the ride! It'll be like that. You clearly had a good reason to turn him down originally. Is the path clearer now? Are you wishing you'd rolled the dice and said 'Yeah...let's try'? How about telling him you WANTED to say yes...but you didn't feel ready or at all certain about it (say 'it' meaning a 'a relationship' and not 'him' meaning you weren't sure about him as a person...it'll help!). Tell him that you've lived aned learned a bit in the past year you wish so much now that you had said yes. And see what happens. I've got a feeling he's just longing to hear this. If it's not to be, at least you'll know and soon you'll find yourself looking at other guys (believe me, it does happen!). Key here is don't WAIT for the chance...make it happen. By the way, we're pretty 'visual' us guys. So when you face-off for that chat make sure you look every bit as good as you can. Outfit, hair and make-up you KNOW suits you best. Go on girl...knock him out!! X
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