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He doesn't buy me presents yet buys presents for his friends...
Boyfriend 68 and im 65..We are renewing and old relationship from over 30 years ago.
He calls every night for past 8 months and sees me when he can..
He bitches about spending the lowest amount of money when we are out...Yet he gambles alot.
He doesn't buy me presents yet buys presents for his friends..
What is with this man?
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I'm closer to your age and male. Dragonflymagic is younger than both of us and is female so you're getting opinions from all sides of the spectrum.
Dragonflymagic is correct; as we get older we get stuck in our ways. He is not going to change. He is a gambler who likes to impress his friends. The relationship you are trying to rekindle may have a different meaning to him than it does for you. He may not be looking for a new partner in life where as you may be. If you are looking for gifts and nice dinners from him to show his interest and commitment to you; you may have the wrong man.
It's funny in a weird sort of way that when we reach this age, I'm the same age as he is. Many of us who may be single, divorced or widowed become like pubescent teenagers again. We look for only one thing and we become players again. I can't say this is what your boyfriend is for I don't know him.
If flowers, gifts and nice restaurants are important to you then you should consider having a conversation with him. One where you ask him just what his intentions are. If his intentions are strictly for a buggy ride then you have a decision to make. Changing him to be more considerate towards you with gifts and other things you would like to see and have is something I don't see forthcoming from him regardless of his intentions.
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When we get older, we tend to get set in our ways and there's little chance of us changing. This man is not hiding what his priorities are....gambling and impressing his friends. Dating coaches explain that a male can have several things that are important to him and not to worry if you're one of the top priorities in his life. If you don't make it to being one of the top three, then you aren't as important to him as you may think or as he may profess you to be.
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