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how shall i talk to my classmate who i love
hey, am a highschool senior ,i want to ask you about what i should do about this boy which i love very much and he also does love me. i know that beacuse he asked me to be his girlfriend by his friend way back before but i said no at that time, beacuse am not able to have a boyfriend beacuse am not old enough. now am 17 years old but am still not able to do so, and my parents would kill me too,and going behind their back is not an option beacuse i will die of guilt, so since then no one knows i love him just me, am pretending that i don't love him but i don't know what to do any more beacuse its killing me inside, the amazing thing is we talk not in school but by e-mail as normal classmates and what i hate about talking to him by e-mail is that it will make it more awkward when we see each other in school beacuse we dont talk in school as normal classmates for the reason that our friends will make fun of us. so am feeling bad everyday after school beacuse i didn't get a chance to talk to him as my classmate, some of it is my fault beacuse i dont also treat him as one of my other classmates and he is so afraid of me even to say"hi" so i don't know what to do. if you have any advice for me i will be happy to take any of your suggestions thank you!!!
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Since you are not allowed to date and can only treat him like a classmate, the only thing you can do is talk to him for starters as you do to other classmates. Topics of conversation are endless and if you choose your questions right, you can find out alot about him. One purpose of dating is to find out what you like about a person and what character traits you don't like or you can't tolerate. Lots of that will come from spending time with the person and alot will come from talking by which you get a glimpse of their mind, how they think and feel about things, their beliefs, hopes, dreams, moral standards etc. So until you turn 18 and are an adult and can make your own decision to date or not, I suggest making the most of any chances to talk at school. If you already know the answers to what his favorite foods, music, movies and such are, then move on to deeper questions, otherwise start there. Use issues in this world to get a feel for how he believes and feels about things.What does he think about organized religion or is he more a spiritual person and how so, get examples. What does he think are the most important things to ensure a relationship is healthy. Under what circumstances would he break a relationship. You get the idea. Since he is acting shy and not speaking first, its up to you to open convo with him. Good luck.
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