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Trying to spice it up in the bedroom
My boyfriend is getting really bored in the bedroom how can I spice it up to make him feel amazing?
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I am assuming that until this point in time, previously both of you were satisfied and he was also meeting all your needs too? If it has been all about what you can do for him, without any thought on his part of what to do to make things more special for you, then the relationship is set on a course to fail unless both parties are putting in the same amount of energy and effort into the relationship in every area including the bedroom. You can try all the things that were mentioned allready but you could also come up with a list of things you'd like to see him do for you. If he is unwilling to try new things to spice up things for you, and only wants what you can do for him, you have a bigger problem than boredom in the bedroom.
The best way to find some new things to try is to talk with him. There's always working on each others g spots for a different type of orgasm for you from clitoral one, he'd need to use his fingers on you inside vagina). And many men can experience stronger orgasms with the female stimulating his g spot which is inside his anus. Its what a doctor checks for prostrate problems...thats his g spot. Role play can help too, talking to each other creating the time period, your age or where you meet for an encounter. Perhaps he plays a man from Scotland or england long ago and you are a sexy barmaid. He talks to you in the best accent he can muster and you flirt back with him saying what you think a barmaid might say to her customer she's serving a beer to. I love doing that for a switch. Another thing I remember from a book for married couples to spice things up was for the girl to cut up pieces of fruit and lay down and place these all over her body for her male partner to eat off of her. Other suggestions were to study what the errogenous zones are on each others body, were having the skin caressed feels really good, dragging different clothes like silky cloth against the skin or a feather, feather duster, or even long hair if you have it is pleasurable. Just start using your imagination. theres no right or wrong way to spice things up, it comes to being more about both yuour personal preferances, so talk and find some common ground on things both of you think sounds fun. Dont either of you do something you don't like at all or are turned off by. Forcing yourself to do such things will cause you to lose interest in being sexual with the person. And that causes problems in the relationship.
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Hey there!
I would firstly like to say I am no sex guru therefore I am not the most equipped to answer your question!
However, what I do know is that's boys imaginations can be very creative when it comes to sex! Why not have a chat with your boyfriend and ask him if there's anything he's ever wanted to try in bed or fancies giving a go. There must be something he's seen that he wouldn't mind trying.
My second this is to be confident and creative. Don't let yourself get caught up in the same old positions! Have a search on the web for possible positions and see if any take your interest that you wouldn't mind doing.
You'd also be surprised at what some new underwear can do! Invest in a pretty pair of matching underwear and the new confidence it will give you will be enough to make you that little bit more interesting! Also it will make him be even more into you than he already is.
Just remember, whatever you do make sure you're both happy and just enjoy it! Sex is a chance to have fun and it shouldn't feel like a chore - good luck!
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