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Sometimes we don't want to wait for sex
i have this boyfriend we have been going together for about 2 years and we have a brought up sex a lot. i told him that i wanted to wait and he totally fine with that but when we talk about he says that he doesn't want to wait and i sometimes say the same thing what should i do
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I'm not sure how old you are but honestly that doesn't affect my answer here. It seems clear to me that you are not sure whether or not you're ready to have sex. Sex can be scary, the 'first time experience' has so many rumours about being painful and scary. Personally, I didn't think the pain was too hard to take but please, if you do have sex ensure that you are protected, sober, in the correct place to do it and you're comfortable. It's good that your boyfriend doesn't seem to have pressured you in anyway, but I think maybe you would like to know what sex feels like and you feel your relationship is at the stage where it is appropriate for it; and honestly sex in a relationship is important, but you need to make sure you are prepared and comfortable. Maybe you should talk to your boyfriend, organise something and just have sex. If you're uncomfortable then stop, or don't have sex, but at least you were going to. Once you've had sex, it's fine and you will be ready to do it again, but make sure your boyfriend is not somebody you will regret sleeping with.
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I don't know your age or his and it matters in what advice I give. You've dated two years. If you started at 13, you might only be 15, or perhaps you started dating at 16 and you're now 18 so legally, an adult. If you are under 18 and he is over 18, even if you both mutually agree to go ahead with sex, he could go to jail for sex with a minor.
As you can see, I don't have enough information.
All I know is you say you want to wait. Do you say that because of how old you are and you believe there is a better age at which to become sexually active? Or do you have any specific reasons as to why you want to wait. thats the part you didn't communicate to me. It would be easier to give you some ideas on what to do if I knew your reasoning and the full situation.
When you say he's totally fine with it, he's not trying to force you but he keeps bringing up the subject because he is ready at this point to become sexual with you, is that correct?
He says he doesnt want to wait. So what is holding you back? There is no rush to go into being sexual with a person. And yes it does change things in a relationship if you do. Some people rush it just to say theyve done it and do at age 12 or so, they've had sex and as adults looking back they say, it was terrible compared to what they have now as adults. We grow a lot in our self confidence as we grow older and mature in ways that making picking out the person we have first sex with, likely to be a better experience.
If the issue is worry about becoming pregnant, then getting on contraception takes care of that with a visit to Planned Parenthood.
So really, this is your choice to make, I can't help make any suggestions or point out any things specific to your situation until I know more. If you provide more information, I might be able to help more.
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Well i have a few questions for you: Are you both currently employed? How old are you? Are you both stable on your feet? and can you support a child? Next are you prepared for your relationship to change because sex changes a relationship regardless of how in love you are i would honestly wait. But, it depends on what you plan your future to be.
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