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Advice ASAP, please?
Im 21 and a female and Nathan is a 29 yrvold male. He is an old friend of my brothers who lives in texas that's where I'm at visiting family now. Nathan is my first crush. I haven't seen hinincei was four yrs old. Since I been down here visiting we have had sex several times. And he doesn't really cuddle with me afterwards. It see,s like he might kinda like me but I know I like him more and because I have a hard time expressing my self , I sent him a message on fb bout nt cuddling with me and he just read it but no response usually he waits until we're both online butnidk just nervous what do I do now ?? And if I need to message what I said them I'll do that ...hmmm...??
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He's just using you for sex most likely. I mean, you're visiting..he obviously just wants to bang you. I'm not trying to seem rude or anything, I'm just stating my opinion. I'd be prepared for the worse.
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So you're trying to tell me that you had a crush on him when you were four years old? You may be one of the few who has crushes that early. What does a four year old know about what it takes to have a healthy relationship or what it takes from each person to put into a relationship, OR what is needed to be compatible for each other?
There is no way based on what you knew at age 4, and the few days visiting family that you saw him, that you could possibly have learned enough about him to base any kind of relationship on, whether casual or serious.
Women more often tend to require the emotional connection to have sex with a guy. And most guys don't require that. They can have sex just for sexual desires sake. He saw you. You've grown into a beautiful young woman who looked sexually appealing to him. You thought him having sex with you meant he had "feelings for you?" Yeah, he had feelings, horny feelings not love feelings. Love at first sight happens so rarely that I dont know a single person it has ever happened to. Love and caring and the kind of feelings needed for him to want to cuddle and have that kind of intimacy don't just automatically happen for everybody without a chance to develop a relationship and those feelings over time. You girl have no clue about relationships. Sex does not equal relationships. You're at a perfect age to start learning though. Please get on a reliable birth control and dont count on condoms. You have lots to learn about dating and relationships and understanding the opposite sex thoroughly before you are ready to start looking for the right guy for you. And I am sure you will make more mistakes
along the way and you don't want getting pregnant because of these or leaving it up to the guy to be prepared. If you keep chasing after him at this point, you will come across as desperate or naive and knowing nothing about guys and he will continue to take advantage of that to get as much sex as you are willing to give. Trust me, sex with a crush is no where near as good as sex with someone who is totally deeply in love with you and you feel like soul mates and feel a connection on an energy level besides the soul one. Now thats mind blowing and fulfilling, and to be able to experience that for the rest of my life with my guys, well...thats heaven. If thats what you are looking for, don't waste your time with guys who are not into you other than for sex. Do not contact him at all. Only talk to him if he contacts you. If he does contact you and its not to go to a movie or bike ride or something else non sexual, then take the clue, he isn't interested in a relationship. Chalk this up as a learning experience and move on if he doesnt call or show interest in really getting to become close friends. Like knowing your favorite color, what your biggest fear is, your most embarassing moment, knowing what your talents are, your hopes, dreams beliefs, what you're like when mad, sad, happy, etc...Best friends know that kind of stuff, know all your spots and wrinkles and still love you. Thats what you're looking for in a guy to date. The sex then is just the icing on the cake.
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