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Falling out of love?
My ex boyfriend and i broke up about 2weeks ago amd ive been feeling better about myself through no co tact with him and iust working on myself. He always seems to check my snapchat story if that possibly indicates that he still had some interest in me still. Well lately ive been having too many dreams of him and it makes me rethink about all the history weve had together for one year and 7 months. Today would have been 8 months too... I feel much more sad than normal when thinking about him. And im also worried about this firl that asked him to homecoming last time when we bfoke up. She triedto break us up for herself a long time ago and its like she still does. But i just dont know what to do honestly today im going to go to the tenple he goes to to see my friends and most likely i will see him. Idontknow what to say if i do see him and idk what to do like if i should initiate contact by texting him one day or keep him wondering about my life and make him like think about me. Because i really dont know i still love him but i hate the headtbreak since this is the second time this happened. And this is the second time that his friends had something to do with it!! So im kinda pissed off at his friends for implanting the doubt in his mind when he coulbhave talked to me straight up. But its like idon't know i should try to get him back because i know how long and how hard it will take. But it also adds to the fact that he once told me that in our second relationship he felt like he was losing feelings for him and all we did then was like friends with benefits cause we didnt have any times without secual stuff to bond.
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First thing you need to learn dear that will make your entire life flow a heck of a lot smoother, is to realize that there isn't a person alive who can force someone to change or to do something they aren't willing to do. Lots of people are weak, no back bone, easily influenced, but such people gave away their decision making to someone else. So no matter what, if he Really wanted to stay with you, there is nothing any of his friends could say to influence him to leave you, even if he was afraid of what they might say or do to him. You are young and just beginning to experiment in love and dating. Part of the dating scene has heart break, is full of silly mistakes each of us do as we learn the dating do's and don'ts, learn to understand the opposite sex better, and decide to set up boundaries and guidelines of what you will and will not tolerate in a relationship. You know what I think? You log on to Snapchat to see if he's looking at you, because you are not ready to let go. Who cares why he's looking at it. If he wanted a relationship with you, he'd be sitting next to you rather than sitting in front of his computer.
Hoping so desperately that him getting on snapchat means he is totally in love with you and can't let you go is the thinking of a desperate girl. He could be a total wimp of a guy who lets others set the path he should take, doesnt have any direction in life, too scared to make a stand and do his own thing, etc. Who even wants a guy like that. You can certainly do way better. But if you are so desperate you're willing to settle for less, then you will never have any guy let alone a good guy cus one thing that subconsciously chases a guy away is a desperate woman. Adult men too. Anytime you become sexual, the feelings you have tend to deepen even more so it will take some time for them to go away. There is no magic thing I can tell you to do to get him back. This is part of life. Life isn't always fair. But life is supposed to be about growth, personal growth and change for the better. So stop checking Snapchat. Keep your mind occupied with other things like maybe checking out you tube videos on dating do's and don't, articles on what females do that scares away the guys, etc. That would be a better focus for your attention right now. Learn all you can and you'll be ready when the next cute dude comes along who has an eye for you.
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