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why douse my dad abuse me ? can someone please tell me why ?
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it depends on what do you mean by abuse. does he hits for no reason or what. some dads hit there kids because they are mad at their selves or whatever
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Dont judge yourself by the way people treat you- look at Jesus- he was treated so badly, in fact, crucified yet he was really nice
If you are being physically/ sexually or paychologically abused, you MUST tell someone- obviously, you're telling me, and im advising you to talk to your school counsellor if they are nice, a teacher- again, if you think you can trust them
I do not know how ol you are ir where you are.
Its quite scary to think about reportung vecause you probably dont want to make a big deal, but sometimes you have to
I there a family counsellor in your area?
Sometimes people become verbally abusive if they lack the skills to parent or become frustrated
What do you think of my advice?
Talk to me
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It is not possible for any of us to tell you "why" your father abuses you as we do nit know either of you. What I can tell you is if the abuse is physical or sexual it is illegal and you need to tell someone. If your mom knows of his abuse of you and has done nothing then she is wrong as well.
If the abuse is physical, meaning dad punches, slaps or in any way knocks you around. There will be bruises you can show to prove the abuse.
Now there is a fine line between abuse and discipline. Example would be spankings. While most teachers and psychologists do not recommend spankings as discipline; a parent is allowed to spank a child on their butts with or without clothing. A spanking is acceptable provided it is administered only with a hand. If a hairbrush, belt, cane or any other implement is used it is considered child abuse not discipline. As embarrassing as it might be to show these bruise if you were or are abused in this manner. You would have the marks to prove it.
Sexual abuse of a child by anyone including parents is never acceptable. It is sometimes hard to prove. A child who claims to be sexually abused will most generally taken at their word until otherwise proven different. The child's safety will always be paramount.
Now if these are the type of abuse you are talking about there are three things you can do for yourself to put a stop to it.
1. Talk with a trusted teacher at school. Tell him or her about whatever abuse you are getting at home.
2. If there is not a teacher you are comfortable talking to speak to your school principal. Both the teacher and principal have protocol's they must follow when such reports are given to them.
3. Regardless of your age you do not need permission to call the police for help. If you feel you are being abuse the police are there to help and protect you. Try to get to someplace safe if you can and call 911. Tell the call take what has happened. The call taker will most likely stay on the line with you until help arrives. If you must call from home don't worry your parents cannot turn the police away. They will want to see you and talk to you before they leave. If they leave without taking you with them or arresting your father, which will depend on the type of abuse you are getting.
There is such a thing as mental abuse. Unfortunately it is not illegal, it is just bad parenting. Still there is help for you if you report it to an adult you trust and they call child protective services. They will investigate and see to your safety.
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