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my dad hates me
my dad hates me so i cut myself and im planing on killing myself how should i kill myself?
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I will answer your last question first. NO, you should not kill yourself!!! The way you are feeling is NOT your fault. Give yourself a break.
The fact that you feel hatred coming from your dad is a very powerful reason to feel depressed. I imagine along with it comes feelings of being rejected and quite possibly mistreated and misunderstood by him.
You cut yourself. That tells me that you have a huge amount of pain inside of you that you cannot express or talk about. So, you must cut yourself to release it. This is understandable. When there is no one around you that you feel comfortable enough to tell your feelings to, you have to find a way to get rid of this unbearable pain. Dad is obviously not someone you can trust or come to for any type of comfort.
My question is, has dad always been so distant and uncaring? Or does he have something that he is dealing with right now that doesn´t let him be available to you?
In any case, it sounds like you need some support. And since dad, for whatever reason seems to be only contributing to the problem, I would suggest that you reach out to someone else.
Who could it be? Look around you and find someone who is open and available. Someone who may be in a position to help you either by listening a lot, or by actually helping you out by providing services to you, such a school counselor, teachers, clergy, etc.
Do you have any friends who will listen, or parents of friends you could open up to? Neighbors? You have to find someone. You cannot keep on fighting these depression and suicidal feelings alone.
PLEASE do me only this favor: Go to someone, ask them for their help. If they cant or wont help you, ask someone else. Ask, ask, and keep asking until someone responds. I guarantee you, someone will. God will put the people you need in the right place when you need them. Just dont give up.
And dont isolate yourself. Reach out and accept the help and care you need right now.
Just the fact that you were brave enough to write in to advicenators shows you are on the right track. You can do this, I know you can. Regardless of what your dad thinks of you. Show him what you are made of by getting help and getting better. God bless you.
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I am assuming you are still in your teen years. Teens brains, the prefrontal cortex doesnt finish maturing until our mid 20's so any decision making, weighing of consequences and skills with interacting and understanding other people will suffer greatly until we mature brain wise.
So my advice is to not plan to kill yourself just because you perceive dad to hate you. While you could be right and dad suffers from some major mental and emotional issues himself, what one person gets wrong should not make another person decide to give up on life.
Life is supposed to be full of hard things and challenges. If it was a cakewalk and easy, there would be no opportunities for us to discover some personal growth.
The challenge in life is to learn to rise above the hand of cards we've been dealt. There is help out there. the thing is knowing where to look and who to turn to.
Teens who cut are usually depressed and need to be on medication and in counseling. If you're not, you need to talk to the parents and let them know how you feel, they can't always tell by looking at you, what you're feeling inside. As a parent of 3, when they were teens, I was very involved in their lives and we talked often but as observant as I was, I still did not see that my oldest was depressed. There were no signs. She didn't even really know what the problem was herself until she experienced post partum depression after giving birth which made her condition lots worse and then she saw a doctor and was put on medication. If you are seeing a doctor and it hasn't helped, .often, its cus haven't found the right person yet...personalities can clash between patient and doctor too so if you don't have total trust in and click with your doctor, its not going to help.
If you feel you can't approach dad, then talk to a school counselor about your depression and feelings of suicide. If the situation at home is abusive towards you, they can get your help for that too. It's more common these days than you'd think and counselors handle this kind of stuff all the time, you won't be looked at as weird.
Reach out to someone for the help I know you want.
A person usually serious about ending their life doesn't ask how or announce to anyone what theyre thinking, they just do it.
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