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Do I like as a friend or something more?
Alright then, there is a girl that I sit next to on the bus and we're going to prom together. After she gets off the bus some people say that she likes me and "you should go out" and I kinda brushed it off, thinking nothing of it. However a few days ago we met outside school(first time meeting a girl outside of school)
for a movie and a meal but I was really nervous and i couldn't put my finger on why. Anyway after I got home my mum asked me "how was your date?" and i was kinda stunned...the more i thought about it the more i realised i had asked her out on a date. So i gave it some thought and i'm still not sure if i like her more than just a friend or just a friend. I really wanna know so if anyone can help it would be much appreciated.
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Likely from talking to friends or watching movies, you figure a person needs to be hit right up front with some kind of strong feelings that start blazing inside of you when you are near a certain girl. Not necessarily. You could have a girl who becomes your close best friend and thats all it is for a long time, no kissing or cuddling but eventually as time goes on, deeper feelings slowly begin to build unv.til you really love the girl. Way too often a girl will say her best friend is a guy who had tried to flirt with her and leave hints all of a sudden like he wanted to date her, but he was just her friend. So he gives up, starts dating others and all of a sudden, she is feeling very jealous and can't figure out why. The reason being, she's known him for years as a close best friend she can trust and share her deepest thoughts with. When all of a sudden she realizes it could change and he wont have the same time for her if he has a dating relationship elsewhere, then she understands the jealousy is because she loves him and it snuck up on her slowly, like blowing on a red coal until it begins to burn the tinder you provide, rather than having something the equivalent of 'charcoal starter for the BBQ" that has those coals blazing with giant flames instantly.
So for now, enjoy the friendship and see what happens. If the feelings aren't there now, thats okay. If they don't develope over time, no matter how special she is then it is not meant to be.
This is what dating is about, these kinds of discoveries and there is no way to keep your heart from getting hurt or her heart from being hurt. But if you don't take the risk out of fear, you will never meet anyone. In case your friends rib you about liking her as a girlfriend, as something romantic, ignore them or you can explain that right now you are dating to find out who you really like, not because you already have strong feelings for her.
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Honestly, it sounded like you were going on a date with her and she could definitely possibly like you by sitting with you and going to prom with you.
It's ok if you like her, it's ok if you don't.
We can't really tell you if you like her or not. We can't feel your feelings. So just give it some time and figure out how you feel. If you're attracted to her, want to spend time with her, and think about her a lot, then you probably like her as more than a friend. Cause I'm sure you don't do that with your friends.
Now if you realize you only see her as a friend, then treat her like a friend and don't take her on "dates".
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only you can really answer that, but if your not sure, try hanging out with her a little more. i know that if i liked someone, i'd want to hang out with them alot. try talking to her a little more just to really get a feel on your emotions toward her. and after awhile, youll either really like her, or just like her as a friend. if your not sure yet, take it easy and dont stress yourself over it. you dont want to ask her out and then find out you dont actually like her. not sure if this helped at all, but i hope you figure it out!! good luck :)
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