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I think this girl is gonna steal my friend, this is pretty long but please!
I've been friends with a girl from school but now we are in different classes and she found someone else who I knew since pre k but we grew apart and now it seems a tough she doesn't like me any more but now she's BFFS with MY best friend, and when the girl I'm friends with said that I can sit next to her, in fact, she PROMISED that I could sit next to her at lunch, but then the other girl yelled,“NO!" and refused to move and since she's twice everyone's size, knows karate, and will beat people up without mercy no one ever stands up to her and I usually fight things with my mouth using fists as a last resort but she'll get you in a body cast for saying one word, and now I'm afraid she's gonna steal my friend and I can't do anything about it. I'm kind of embarrassed about this entire thing since I always fight people off and don't give in easily but I'll need back up for her and everyone's too afraid, and if I told a teacher she'd beat me up afterwards and beat up everyone else just to get rid of her anger (she once beat up a boy for walking to her, she kicked him in the gut) so for should I get my friend to stop hanging out with her as much as possible because as of now she has a play date with her every day and sits next to her whenever possible?
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Well she isn't "stealing" your friend. Your friend is making a choice to be friends with the girl.
The best thing to do is talk to your friend about it. Say that you want to stay friends with her and still find time to hang out. This other girl doesn't control her life so if your friend wants to hang out with her, it's her choice. So to stay friends with your friend, you need to accept it.
It's normal to make new friends and want to hang out with them, even if you dislike the person she is friends with. You pretty much can't tell her to stop hanging out with her, that won't do any good. I think you should just tell her you care about her, you still want to be friends and hang out.
Besides sitting by each other at lunch, you might want to find other ways to hang out.
As for her friend, she obviously doesn't sound like a nice girl. If she does fight you or harass you in any way, you do need to tell a teacher. If she beats you up, you tell a teacher again. You stand up for yourself. You don't need to fight to stand up for yourself. But you do need to let teachers and the principal know so she doesn't keep doing this, she'll just keep getting in trouble and if she keeps it up, she'll end up getting suspended and expelled.
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If your friend chooses to be friends with this mean girl that is her decision and you need to find yourself another true friend who doesn't just turn on you like that. However I wonder if this mean girl is intimidating your friend making her feel like she has to hang with her or she will be beat up. Have you tried talking with your friend after school over the phone asking her what is going on? If not, you might want to start there and let her know how you feel. On the other side of things you shouldn't have to feel afraid at school. Someone needs to do something about this girl if she is being physical, bullying and intimidating. What she is doing is against the law. Sounds like everyone is just tiptoeing around this girl. What a horrible way to live everyday at school. Now back to your friend, if this mean girl is what she wants let her have her and move on. You deserve a true friendship and you will find one. I think your friend will wake up one day and realize what a mistake it was for her to treat you this way and you may have already moved on. You deserve better than this. No one should have to fight for a friend. Thats just rediculous. She's not a very good friend.
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