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A friend puts blame on me..
So im 13/m, and im friend with this nice girl(sometimes), she used to have a jerk as a bf and now cant find anyone else to go out with. Everytime i make a small mistake with her(not academically) like i say something stupid, she gets pissed at me, first i thought it was just her periods but its getting more and more. plz help..am i doing stuff wrong?
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No, you are not doing anything wrong. All girls when they go through puberty will experience changes to their emotions, just that some experience it alot stronger and worse and it can get worse over time and it can last for years.
I should know, I had 3 daughters...lol !
What happens is that the extra hormones racing through the body cause a females emotions to go haywire, in ways totally different to her normal temperament. She can cry easily or get upset and weepy for absolutely no reason, or as in the case with your friend, get pissed easily for no reason, maybe really angry or totally out of control enraged.
Some adult women have troubles monthly right before their period, and its called PMS, pre menstrual symptoms. But in the case of young girls, its not just pre menstrual but every day because the body is not used to the increasing flow of hormones released in the body that werent there before. She may not be aware that this is happening with her. She may be irritated that she doesnt have a boyfriend currently but that is less likely to be the cause. If the two of you are pretty good friends and it seems like her extreme irritation with you is getting worse, hoping she'd be open to a heart to heart talk on one of her good days. Don't point out that she is having troubles. Tell the story about yourself to introduce this information cus she may not realize what she is doing. I'd say, "Hey I learned that girls our age will have reactions from the extra hormones of going through puberty. It's supposed to make us more sad, cry easy, or get angry all the time real easy. That kinda explains why my own emotions have felt different than usual. How about you? Do you feel like you are different at times than your usual self, feeling easily angry or weepy? This is a way to get her talking and realizing it. If she denies anything being wrong with her, then there's nothing you can do to make her see it or come to that conclusion herself. At least you will know to not take anything personally.
Another things girls will do is become really bitchy towards and fight with another female of any age, but usually one female in their daily world will get the brunt of it, whether its mom, sisters or friends at school. My girls never lashed out at me or friends, they just targeted each other. I didn't allow them to use this hormone thing as an excuse though to get away with such behavior but as an opportunity to begin to learn and exercise some self control of their emotions. We all have to learn sometime, don't we.
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