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Hello :)
I am the girl that posted just recently about how ive fallen for this guy so quickly in a short period of time and the reason why i decided to write you is because ive seen you give great advice and i couldnt think of anyone else that i could come to that would help me like you would. To be frank, he really isnt a control freak.. he used to give me my space and he wasnt mean although he was pretty rude and arrogant sometimes, thats something i wont deny. However, when we sat down to talk about our situation, he kept trying to think of options of what we can do to solve our problem and he was like "Okay look, just try to work on it, try to work on accepting the fact that you love me more" and i told him that i couldnt, and then he said he'd think about what he could do and i told him there was nothing to think about and that i wont live in denial anymore. The thing is, ive seen him online lately till the morning, he doesnt get off and is constantly trying to strike up a conversation with my sister about anything just so he can keep in touch. I saw him online yesterday for a while (which is NOT something he usually does, especially that we never talk online and hes not such an internet type of person) we always talk on the phone or see each other. Then he writes me going Hi how are you, and i said i was fine and he said he was too and then the conversation ended. We ended it about three days ago and im not sure if thats him missing me or regretting it or just wanting to be friends but i highly doubt he wants my friendship because it hasnt even been a week yet. What do you think is going on with him? Im asking you this not because i feel you'd know, but because your a man as well and you know or at least have an idea on what they think/feel.
Thank you for your time :)
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Not knowing him it is hard to put my finger on the why. What I see is a failure to want to commit on his part. I'm not sure of the why yet he seems to what to at the very least keep tabs on you. If he is keeping tabs on you that could be worrisome as it is a sign that he is a controlling type person and is now stalking you.
I don't understand trying to negotiate a love affair. Does love have to be equal to begin with? Maybe not but at some point it should equal out if the relationship is to grow and prosper. This seems a little immature on his part and again the answer I would expect from someone trying to find a way to control the situation to their advantage.
Can you two be just friends? One I don't think this is what you want. Two I don't feel he will accept being just friends either he wants what comes from a relationship with a woman. The full bounty or nothing at all on his terms. He is fighting for this for reason I can't explain other than he must have a great deal of lust for you.
If this is the case than I may have made an assumption that was incorrect with my original answer. I assumed you are an adult woman in her early twenties. Men who confuse lust and love are generally in their puberty teenage years 13 to 20. Teenage boy believe love to be synonymous with lust and lust being the definition. Whereas girls know the difference and know love to be defined as one would find it in the dictionary.
Now just in case you are both adults and he is still defining love as he did as a teenager then he is very immature and you can do better. This means I stand by my original suggestion to move on.
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