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Asking my co-worker out?
17F
So I have had my eye on this girl from work since day 1. We have been casually talking for more than a month, and its gotten to the point where things feel flirtier. I can't be sure though, because she is bisexual. Anyways, I wanted to ask her out on Valentine's day but I need some input
1. Is it too cliche?
2. She's 20, so would it seem to juvenile?
3. My plan was to put a rose or a teddy bear in her locker at work with an invitation. GOOD? OR NO?
4. Do I talk about it subtly before hand? Such as jokingly ask her if she has plans for that day?
5. If I fet rejected?
6. Any extra advice?
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Let me make sure I understand you correctly. You're a 17 year old female and you want to ask a 20 year old female co-worker out for Valentines Day. If this is correct then I would be right in assuming you are a Lesbian and you feel she is also a lesbian.
Going with number 6 first: I would make sure that this women's sexual preference is as you believe it is, especially if it is not known around the workplace that you are a lesbian. Even if it is known she may just be being nice to you at work and has a boyfriend outside of work.
What you might do is during a conversation, say over lunch as her if she has any plans for Valentines Day. It is a normal thing for one friend to ask another friend in polite conversation. How she responds will tell you how you should proceed in advancing your friendship with her.
If she responds that I waiting for my significant other to ask me. Then it is possible she is a lesbian. If she responds, my boyfriend and I haven't made any definite plans, well then you have your answer. There is of course other ways she can answer as well such as I have no plans. If you get this answer you can try a soft invitation by saying: "I have no plans either maybe we could hang out together." Then see what her answer is.
Item 2. The 3 year age difference at this time while numerically is not a large difference it is a somewhat huge cap between you two. IF you were 25 to her 28 it would be different. Sine you are legally not an adult yet she may see you as a juvenile.
As for item 3; I would not go with that unless you know for sure she is into women.
Item 4 I covered in item 6.
Item 5. Stick with the soft approach as I outlines in item 6. Since you are not asking for a date you are not really being rejected if she say no to the idea of hanging out together.
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