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Bankrupt: I think I maybe pregnant, am I overreacting or should I be mad?
My boyfriend is going bankrupt, I'm doing all I can to help. His house and cell got cut off, and so did his internet. But even before he still hardly ever called so I could make sure he was okay. Always too busy trying some shit get rich scheme. He's been staying with this one guy and the guy let him use his internet and phone to tell me what's going on. Well tonight he posted a status but didn't message me back. I sent him a dear john letter basically and fumed. But I think I maybe pregnant, am I overreacting or should I be mad?
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You're not overreacting if your pregnant. So the first order of business is to find out if you are pregnant. There are many reasons for missing a period, if that is the reason you think you are pregnant. The biggest reason is the stress over worry that you might have gotten pregnant from unprotected sex.
Go to the pharmacy and buy a home test kit. If you have not missed a period purchase a kit that allows testing as soon after unprotected intercourse as possible and at least as long as it has been for you. If it comes up positive don't panic early tests are prone to false positives wait ten days buy another kit and test again.
If you are pregnant his filing for bankruptcy does not relieve him of his financial responsibilities to his child. You need to find a lawyer and have the proper paperwork filed with the court to insure he provides financial support, child support for his child. If you cannot afford a lawyer go to the legal aid office near you and they will do the filings for you.
As far as to whether you are over reacting or should just be mad. I can only respond to the possible pregnancy. In that case you have every right to over react and be mad. For if you are pregnant and he is using the threat of his filing for bankruptcy as a ploy to deter you from asking for child support. Then yes you should be mad and no you are not overreacting. As I said above bankruptcy does not release him from his financial responsibilities of his children. In fact I'm fairly certain he knows this and is hoping you don't.
As for the relationship and how you may reacting to it. I really can't respond. There is not enough information for one. For another relationships being what they are and the intertwining with our feelings it is very easy to for emotions to run wild.
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You are certainly entitled to feel mad, and scared.
Even if you aren't pregnant, it doesn't sound like this a person you'd feel comfortable being in a relationship with. He's irresponsible and non-communicative.
So take a look at the possible pregnancy and this relationship as separate issues. If you are pregnant, and choose to have the child, you'll always have to deal with this guy to some degree, but even still, you aren't obligated to stay in a relationship with him.
If I were you, I'd make a clear decision about the relationship. Dealing with the pregnancy can happen later, if it needs too.
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