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Boyfriend's family... should I intervene?
boyfriend's family is not very friendly to my niece. They are both teenagers and very much in love, so my niece has to keep visiting his house. But the boyfriend's family gets nasty and sometimes slaps him when she leaves. As an aunt should I intervene?
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I agree with everything Dragonflymagic said in the first three paragraphs of his response.
Where I disagree is with the last two paragraphs. Hitting a child in the face, this is what slapping means to me, is considered child abuse. If you believe this is true then you can and should report this to either CPS or the Police there is no good reason for any one to hit or slap a child anywhere on their body other than there butt. Even then moderation is the word.
Also I would suggest you talk with your niece and suggest she and her boyfriend meet someplace other than his house. This will alleviate the problem he faces from his family by her not being in their home.
If we knew what the problem her parents had with your niece we could offer more help. Since we do not this is the best we can offer. If you believe your niece and I have no doubt that you do then I do suggest you call CPS and ask them to investigate.
(Dragonflymagic answered Wednesday December 11 2013, 11:58 pm:
You didn't make yourself to clear. At first I thought you meant your boyfriends family. But I read it several times and think you are saying that you are the aunt of a teenage girl who is crazy about her boyfriend. She visits his house. While there, no one is friendly with her. when she leaves the house, the boy is yelled at and slapped around by his family.
If that is what you are trying to say...I have some questions. You said she "has to" keep visiting his house. Who is forcing her to visit him there? Why can't they meet elsewhere? That part is not clear. I highly doubt that someone is forcing her against her will to go to his house.
Next question: How do you know that the teen age boy is being verbally and physically abused when she leaves? Is this what the niece tells you? Or have you been there to give her a ride home and witnessed this?)
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You didn't make yourself to clear. At first I thought you meant your boyfriends family. But I read it several times and think you are saying that you are the aunt of a teenage girl who is crazy about her boyfriend. She visits his house. While there, no one is friendly with her. when she leaves the house, the boy is yelled at and slapped around by his family.
If that is what you are trying to say...I have some questions. You said she "has to" keep visiting his house. Who is forcing her to visit him there? Why can't they meet elsewhere? That part is not clear. I highly doubt that someone is forcing her against her will to go to his house.
Next question: How do you know that the teen age boy is being verbally and physically abused when she leaves? Is this what the niece tells you? Or have you been there to give her a ride home and witnessed this?
If you have not witnessed this, you can not report the family to Child protective services. If its only what has been told to you by your niece, thats not evidence. I dont say she is lieing, just that CPS may not take it seriously if you say its what your niece told you.
If you are not talking about intervening on the boys behalf and his physical welfare, then my next question is:
What were you thinking of intervening about? I can understand your emotions getting riled when you love your niece and hear things are not going well for her. But everyone has the free will, and with free will can not be forced to behave a certain way such as being friendlier to your niece and allowing the two to date without hassles.
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