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Could he really mean these things...?
...I believe him, but then again...
Me: "I'm not feeling right..."
Him: "What wrong..."
Me: "I'm feeling extremely suicidal right now..."
Him: "No.....if you do.....I will"
And when we were on Skype, he said that I saved his life. That when his friend died, he was about to jump off a four-story, then he received my Kik message and he said that stopped him.
He's said so many things like this. When he says them on Skype, his face shows that he really means it. But I want to know if it's possible he really does mean it. I ask this because we just got together a week ago. But he keeps saying that we've got this connection that's made him feel this way already.
Oh! And he's also saying that he's going to purpose to me on New Years Eve. We're only sixteen. I'm going to say yes though. Because I know I need him since he's the only one keeping me from killing myself and I genuinely love him. I can say that already because of our connection. No one understands our connection, but we do. We know how we feel, and nothing anyone says is going to change it.
If you were me, would you say yes? Especially since all the things I've told you? And we're not thinking getting married like a year later or whatever. After we graduate from college and all.
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I believe that he could mean those things, but that's not good. I also believe that you guys truly do love each other, but if you guys are this serious I think you both need to see a counselor separately. This is on a completely different subject but suicide is serious. If you do have suicidal thoughts, you should seek help. I mean if something goes wrong in your relationship and you're suicidal, your life will end. So before you go father into this relationship, seek help.
Onto the rest, if I were you, I wouldn't be saying yes, especially after what you've told us.
At this moment, I'm 19 and have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years and I wouldn't want to get engaged right now.
Even though you both are 16, I believe you guys genuinely love each other but before you make your choice to get engaged, make sure you know everything you need to know. You want to be with a guy who can support you. Does he work hard in school and at work? Or does he complain about it? How does he treat his family? His parents and his siblings?
Besides all that, the main reason why I would wait is because everyone changes once they get out of high school. There are those few relationships that last after high school but most don't and the main reason would be that these people changed.
Maybe in a couple years you guys you guys might not click and your personalities will just be too different, you never know. So that's why I would wait.
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If I were you Hun, I would not say yes. I promise, there will be so many other guys. And I'm sixteen as well, and I even know that. There was a guy I loved for five years, and I'm just now being with him, but even now I know there will be others. No need to settle now, and boys will say anything to get in your pants . I'm not saying that's what he's doing, but test him. Say "I want to wait until I'm married to have sex." (Even if you don't) and see how he responds. And don't just let him respond and say that he was like "oh that's fine" they say that in the beginning. Just let it go on and make sure he KNOWS you feel that way and see if he slowly a backs off. Then you wi know if he means what he says. If you need any more advice, e-mail me at destiny.mcrae@aol.com :) good luck!
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