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Just a friend, or interested in me...?
Well, this might be a little long, but I'll start at the beginning and try to summarize it as much as I can without making this pointless.
There's this girl a year younger than me who has been kind of a friend since a few years ago in high school. We met through some mutual friends in freshman year, and we were both kind of quiet, like we both were with pretty much everyone.
After a while she started to sort of open up just a little bit, and talk with me(which was rare for her to do with anyone but close friends). We had basically identical interests(music, art, adrenaline rushes, Japanese culture, a general loathing of most humans, etc.). Then in my senior year we had a class together with a bunch of horribly immature, obnoxious underclassmen, and we instantly bonded. We sat in the back next to each other every day, helped each other get our work done early, joked around in our own crazy way, and started talking about hanging out more.
I'll skip ahead a bit. During our time in class together, we had half-jokingly talked about going on some adventures together - scuba diving, skydiving, a trip to Japan. Well, a few weeks ago, she messaged me on facebook saying she had hooked us up with some cheap skydiving through her friend. After a little talking about when, where, and how much it would cost, she revealed that she was deathly terrified of heights and had never told anyone. And despite her usually ice-cold, steely resolve(another thing we shared), she would be screaming the moment the door opened and it was time to jump.
So we continued with our plans, and just before we figured out a date for it, "something came up" that made her miss the rest of diving season.
So, she's opened up to me more than she's opened up to anyone, and she's tried her hardest - despite her terrible fears - to go out of her way to go on some new adventure with just the two of us. She doesn't look at me with the cold, careful, un-trusting glare the rest of the world gets from her. I can't tell what it is, but whatever it is, it's something deep. And she's fine with friendly physical contact with me, where anyone else who so much as brushes accidentally against her arm would be wise to quickly count their fingers.
What I'm wondering is if any of you have an idea what it might be. Just friendly? Or trying to show there's something more?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
It could be either or. She could just simply find you as a good friend and someone who she connects with and actually trusts or she could possibly have feelings for you.
So the best thing to do is to ask her. If you're interested in her, then ask her on a date. If she's cool with it, there is a really good chance she's into you. If she isn't ok with it, then just leave it as friends.
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There's no hard-and-fast rules here, but it sounds like she might be interested in you.
Go for it -- what have you got to lose? Find something unique in your area to do, and ask her to go with you as a date. If she then says she doesn't want it to be a date, then just ask her as a friend, and maybe invite another friend or two along so it wouldn't be awkward.
But from the sound of it, she's willing to take a chance on you. :)
Good luck,
Pollux
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