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Morals, beliefs, what is the point of life ?
Hi!
So lately I've been pondering the meaning of life. Like what is the point of living ? I'm not saying this cause I'm emo and I'm depressed and all, but it just makes me wonder what is the point of life ? And how should you fulfill it to make you feel successful and happy ? Because to me, I see it as though that when you get older, more responsibilities are given to you , you have much more stress in life, you go to school for most of your entire life and when you do graduate from some kind of degree you then start work. It like you work to have money in order to live comfortably. And then there's the part where you try to find that significant other , and when you find that someone you never know if in the end will be happy enough for you. What if you get divorced ? And then there the potential heartbreak and all the random shit that you might go through in a relationship. But then say you do have a happy marriage and great relationships. Say you have kids and then grand kids and then you retire. After all the years that you have lived, stress, hardships, obstacles, miracles, and love ...... What's next in life ?? Do you die and that's it ? And then several generations go by and you're forgotten ?
I guess I'm just having a hard time what I belive in ? I don't know what I believe in and what my morals are ?
I'm originally from a Vietnamese Roman Catholic family in which they are super super religious . My mom goes to church every single day and she always give me heck for not being religious enough .. And to be honest , I know it sounds horrible but I don't even know if I even belive fully in the bible and all that jazz. I want to fit in, and I do go to church every Sunday . But whenever I go , I can never focus on the readings and I never pray there . I feel bad. And then there's the part where I used to go to Sunday school every sunday since I was young but now I never go and I dont even go to my vietnamese church ever either. And Part of the reason why i guess is because of my ex that goes there as well that drove me away and part of it is that I feel like I've grown out of the vietnamese church community. But then at the same time I don't know if I'm missing out? In a way I sort of miss my church friends and in a way I sort of dont ? Do you think it's fine that I've moved on ?? I'm just so confused so much about life right now in general . Please help ? Sorry for the long question btw aha
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I can relate, boy can I relate and I have sooo much to share with you that you will see that you are actually doing what is healthy and truly the best thing for any individual to do, follow your own path. As to what happens on that path and the purposes behind them, we may not know but we will when we die and look back, then it will all make sense. And sooo, if things are confusing and you don't know what to make of life and it seems pointless, God understands...its all part of our learning process so no condemnation from that corner.
One way to start to put things in perspective is:
“I am a spiritual being having a mortal experience.”
We have a knowledge, that comes from the whisperings of the Holy Ghost saying that there is much more, That my existence and being is patterned after our Eternal, Heavenly Father. I know that “God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness but many argue as to what that means and are we talking about the image of our body or image of our souls? Since God does not have a mortal body, of course it stands to reason we are talking about the soul. Our mortal family units are a good example to look at to gain insight into what our soul family is like...at least the healthy family units where there is love and not abuse. As a child, didn't you have to go thru a period of learning by trial and error. Parents taught you by being a good example themselves, setting up boundaries, what things are not acceptable because they are hurtful to you or others. Some humans get carried away on issues that are not really important. In a family, we learn what it is like to be part of a family, what our role as a son or daughter is within a family and what abilities we have that the parents have, what inheritances come with the family name, etc...
Many have no thought of spirituality. It is as if they were asleep. What is promising is that each one of us has a piece of God inside us. While I attended church, I chose to believe that the Holy Spirit lived inside me. Some relate better to believing and connecting with their angels or believing they hear from spirit guides, or the souls of relatives passed on who now guide you. It doesn't matter what we feel most comfortable picturing it as, end result is the same, God is the one behind all of that, it is not an issue to him what we believe the guidance is coming from, more important is that we are getting it and hearing it clearly because that is what will help us grow up as souls on our spiritual journey. The reason souls incarnate into mortal bodies instead of trying to learn everything in heaven is because there are some things that can only be learned this way. Just as there are some things I had to learn and experience in life rather than know and understand from just reading about it. Our spiritual life is an 'experience'...it is something that is lived...and that is the purpose of your mortal life...for your soul to either experience certain things or to experience and grow from what we learn. Would you say there are kids who are slow to learn when the parents warn them that they can get hurt doing a certain thing and they make the same mistake over and over and over? Their immaturity has them doing it wrong again whereas another child near the same age, may seem to have more wisdom and learns the first time and therefore grows from their experience. Souls are no different. Some are more mature than others. I used to believe in us having just the one life time to get it right. But now I don't. My God is a loving parent: patient with me when I get something wrong, he does not discipline or punish me harshly, he only uses gentle words to guide me. Why would he give me only one lifetime to get it right? Lifetimes are more like grade levels in school as I see it. So some souls are in Kindergarten and some in College ready to graduate. And sometime a child has to take a certain grade over again becuase they are not ready to move on yet. Thats where a soul I believe lives another life to learn the thing they didn't learn in the last life.
You are doing what I did, choosing to think for yourself rather than believe everything you are told in church or in how they interpret the bible.
I can say there is a lot of truth in the bible, but there are a lot of distortions, and then there are some very unproductive beliefs that lead people to live in ways that are counter productive to what the Spirit of God is trying to teach us. You know there is a power greater than you. Its like being a foster kid and the church your foster parents and they are doing the best they know how but its not a very good job at all and you have just learned that your adoptive or foster parents are not your real parents, wouldnt you want to get to know your real parents?
As a soul, that is one thing we are here to learn...to choose to want to get to know our heavenly parent. It won't bthe forced on us and thats why so many go through life, choosing to not even think about if there is a God.
Realistically, having a heavenly parent that we know nothing about, wouldn't the first step be to make initial contact, awkward as the process may be and then slowly build the relational step by step by spending time together, talking to each other. It's not any more mysterious than talking to oreet having a relationship with your earthly parents. God is not formal, he talks to you in whatever language and words you are most comfortable using, but like a kid who has their own bedroom, He is polite and gives you your space, he won't intrude. If you want to get to know him, you have to come out of your room so to speak and start talking to him. Its as easy as "Hey God, I'm not sure what I am comfortable calling you yet but I decided it is time I get to know you better so I can rely on you rather than other souls in mortal bodies for my spiritual guidance. I want to learn about you, what you want me to do. That is the most important thing to me, having a purpose and reason for being so I am going to need a little help and guidance from you so that I make the most of my souls experience in this life. I want you to be proud of me so I will ask you often if I am pleasing you as my heavenly parent. Help me in this process of learning how to hear your voice in my head and recognize it from my own thoughts. thanks a lot."
Thats' pretty much how I pray or talk to God. I never bow my head...why? Do I bow my head when I talk to my earthly parents? No...why do it for God...cus He doesnt stand on ceremony as we are led to believe. But dont take my words for it dear, just start asking God.
At first you will find you sometimes have a strong gut feeling about something, or your inner voice is saying, I am not comfortable with that..I dont think its a good idea to do that. Heed those feelings because our subconscious minds which is where our feelings and emotions are, have an easier time hearing what the Spirit inside us is saying. Keep asking for confirmations and verifications. If you have to ask a hundred times before you are sure you heard from God correctly, then do so. What matters is that you get to a place where you know that you know that you know what God has said to you and your experiences with God and his personal one on one teachings with you are so real that there is no one in the world who can convince you that you are on the wrong path. There are many paths to coming to spiritual maturity, in fact almost all the religion and beliefs on this planet have a piece of the truth. But also, each one has its own set of falsehoods and distorted teachings and yet people buy the whole ball of wax and believe it all. Decide what it is you do believe firmly and start there.
I understand missing church...although the only part I miss is the worship time,,it was always the favorite part of any service. I don't not miss the people, at first I did but as I grew spiritually more aware than where they were at, it was like me having a PHD from some college and trying to converse on that level with kindergarteners. Their minds are just not there yet. I really felt the gap great enough that I had to find people who were more open minded spiritually rather than narrow minded/thinking inside the box religious.
I am sure there is more I can share with you so if you have a specific item or thought I didnt touch on enough, let me know by writing my column inbox or in general to the folks here again.
Blessings to you dear.
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