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dating with tinder
Tinder in Argentina. I match with lots of girls but none reply back, is it broken? why would they click like if they wont chat with matches?
I'm just using "hi" (and other synonims like hello) and I don't keep sending messages if they don't reply to the first one, so nothing creepy or disgusting.
Is the app broken and doesn't send/receive messages?
or why would they push like if they wont chat with matches?
is it normal? girls just push like because they are stupid and dont know what Tinder is about?
AM I THE ONLY ONE IN MY COUNTRY THAT KNOWS WHAT THIS APP IS FOR?
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Get over your sense entitlement.
You aren't owed attention from someone because they swiped 'Yes' on an app. They aren't stupid if they don't want to talk to you. I wouldn't want to talk to someone with your attitude.
Maybe finding something more interesting to say than 'Hi' might help. The best advice for all online dating is to ask a question, tell a joke, or pay a compliment. Hi doesn't start a conversation. Hi is the lazy thing you say to a person across the room who you kinda know, but don't actually want to talk to.
Actually want to talk to someone? Put in more effort than "Hello".
And yeah. It's normal for most messages not to get a response. That's normal on all dating sites or apps, all the time, for everyone.
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Haha it's not just you. My friends and I talk about this frequently. Nothing you can do about it.
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I looked up Tinder to be sure but I can see that it is an internet dating site. I used to be on OKcupid and POF, where I met my current husband but both of us were older, wiser and knew what to look out for.
Younger people who have not yet figured out who they themselves are and what exactly they are looking for, are not going to have as much success.
A dating site should be looked at only as a tool, to become aware of the existance of a person who may be a match. Many young people do not seem to understand that and prefer to go for on line relationships cus it seems safer. But anything on line can be and most likely will be an illusion. So it helps to be able to know how to look through the smoke screen someone puts up. Even if used as I used it, once meeting in person the other may turn out to be nothing at all as represented on the internet. People can fake it in written messages and even in phone calls but not in person. So you will have to put up with a lot of people who are not serious but just playing at this.
Of course it helps in how you present yourself.
I have a document I have written to help guys with knowing how to make the initial contact letter to a girl online and also on how to put together their profile. If you would like me to give these to you, let me know by going to my column and then sending me a message from there asking for it, just let me know that you're the guy on Tinder and I will remember.
I have spoken to many guys on line who asked me the same questions you have. Beats me why a girl would put up a profile saying she wants to meet a guy and then not have the politeness or tactfulness to give a short answer even to say that she is not interested. I always answered about 98% of the guys who wrote me. Some were not serious about me, just saying they found me hot looking or more descriptive to the point which is not the first thing a girl wants to hear as it is a given that by a photo you found her attractive to you or you wouldn't be contacting her in the first place. But there are men who never learn and end up in their 50's lonely, hoping to date and still not having a clue what to say. Just saying Hi, how are you is not enough of a bait to catch the interest of a girl to respond. Women can get many responses from a guy. If she took the time to get to chatting with every guy who just says HI and nothing much else to start, it usually goes no where as they don't have enough in common to hold interest in each other.
Use Tinder as a way to tell the ladies about who you are...not where you live, work or go to school...that tells her nothing of your character. I have much more to share. But I need to know if you are interested in learning or even need the help. If a girl says she wants to respond to the chat box, the majority of the time, even in good internet areas, a good amount of them will not go through. I had that problem often, she will likely see the same thing you do, a chat box that doesnt fully load. Or yours may be loaded but on her end it doesnt so she is unable to type a single word.
Here's something I did:
Or...she quickly hits the button to accept the chat because of how hard it is to connect,
but then just as fast brings up your profile to read what you have to say about yourself and discovers that you are not what she is looking for so once the chat is fully loaded, she is immature and simply says nothing and doesnt answer. Most of the times, to be truthful, I have not had any meaningful good conversations in a chat box with all the guys whose chat I accepted.
I have answered chat boxes of guys who were heavy smokers and while chatting with them answering their hi and what are you doing or how are you, i find that the part of my profile that spelled out point by point what I am looking for in a guy, they don't meeet the requirements at all, so i will ask why they wrote. If they were just bored and wanted someone to chat with for fun, and I had the time, I might chat. If they said they liked everything they read about me and hoped he'd get a chance to meet me in person, I would then question him bringing up some of my requirements. I needed someone openminded as I used to be >Christian but now was more open minded Spiritually and needed the guy to be the same as I leaned toward Pagan beliefs. There was a deep christian guy who brought up a chat box. I asked if he read my profile as I had quickly read his. He said he read it. So I asked why if he was a christian, that he was contacting someone who was pagan, earth based religion although I do believe in Jesus. At first his answers proved he had not read my profile, only decided to chat cus he liked my photo and I happened to be online...a great majority of guys are like that so girls can become jaded pretty quickly and give up.
When the guy realized what I was about he said he I was a heathen and that he would be praying for my soul and wanted nothing to do with me and closed his chat immediately.
Not many girls are going to make the effort to contact the chat because the accept to connect is only a few seconds long. If you wait too long, you might lose it but then have a guy connected who isn't what you are looking for.
I would even go as far as sending a line that says: Hi, I was interested in what you wrote about yourself in your profile, thanks for accepting my chat. I will give you a moment if you want to go read my profile. If you decide i am not someone who you want to be talking to, let me know and I will not bother you again. If you are intrigued and would like to chat further then great!
Let me know if I can be of any other help on the subject.
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