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oral sex
my boyfriend has been trying to force me to have oral sex with him but im not sure, i was going to but it looked gross,ad felt odd, what should i doo? and it sticks too ewww!
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First: When it comes to sex you need to be consenting to anything you do sexually. If you are forced or being forced, even with oral sex, it is RAPE.
Now as far as oral sex is concerned, pardon the pun, it is an acquired taste. Not all man will give a woman oral sex and not all women will give a man oral sex. If you enjoy having you BF giving you oral sex then you should at least try to give him oral sex. IF you find it gross or unpleasant then you don't have to.
As I said it is a learned experience. The first time may not be pleasant but after a few tries you may come to enjoy it. Most important is that you not be forced. If you are forced you will not only not enjoy it you are being raped.
Rape is not strictly penetration of the vagina. Rape is any sexual contact that is not consensual on your part. So tell the BF to stop forcing you. He is not technically committing rap. He is committing rape by forcing you and can be charged with rape if you so desire to charge him.
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Don't do anything you don't want to do.
You shouldn't be with a guy who is forcing you to do something. It's wrong.
You should straight up tell him you're uncomfortable with it and you don't want to. If he keeps trying to push you to do it, you need to rethink this relationship. He's not respecting you.
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You may be ready for dating a guy and romance, but not ready for sex. Thats what it sounds like. If you aren't ready, thats end of story. You do not have sex unless you are old enough to know you really have deep feelings for this guy and love him and he has proven and shown to you over time that he loves you too, its not just what he says.
Its all too easy for a guy to say, "I love you" and not mean it, just because they think thats what a girl wants to hear and in the end he breaks her heart. A guy who really cares about you dear is going to be supportive and understand if you aren't interested or ready and the good guy will not pressure his girl to do anything. Thats using and abusing you! Plain and simple. Even if it was just what seems like innocent sexting, pestering to send him sex pics....that is still abusive. That is not a healthy relationship. Guys who don't care about you are easily going to cheat on you too...its part of their makeup. They don't know how to be supportive and uphold another person, He may not have had any good examples at home growing up. And these guys are currently incapable of being supportive and loving. They have no code of ethics they live by and no desire to change as long as they can get what they want by promising to be a girls boyfriend. She thinks she's made it status wise, she's part of a couple, but being coupled with a jerk isn't anything to be proud of.
Give yourself more time to grown up and some day you will find a man who is in love with you and you with him and you wont find having sex with him to be gross. Although I must point out, there are adult who have thier likes and dislikes in sex and fantasies. If you at any age, 30, 50 even are with a man where you both don't like the same things and don't have the same libido, you're with the wrong guy. This is VERY important to learn cus if you date or marry someone who is not your sexual equal, he will either cheat or stop wanting sex and not ever want sex with anyone again.
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