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thanks for putting up with how creepy i used to be.
so ive had an advicenators account for about 5 years now and have gone through on and off phases of using it. i used it a lot when i was in freshmen year of high school and again a few times end of junior year. basiclly in looking through my 9th grade questions im literally humiliated at how pathetic i sounded and in shock/denial that i was ever that big of a loser. to sum up, i was really normal in middle school then aparently 9th grade and a bit of 10th was not my prime. i sounded friendless and pathetic in all my eager advice seeking and typed things i would never even let myself think now. then i got to 11th and 12th grade and had the time of my life, i got everything i was so desperate to have in my earlier high school years and more, and am completely happy with my life and the person i have become. i honestly feel like i am my best version of myself, and very happy who i am and confident in who i will be. but the thing is i most probably thought that after my normalness in middle school also and at the time felt like nothing could bring me down and change who i am into the dishoveled mess of a person i became few years later. so how do i know that wont happen to me again? could college freshman me, thrown into uncertainty yet again with no remnants of my glory days of high school become post middle school high school freshman me again? is it honestly possible to have so much personal progress reversed instantly just because of a change of enviroment? well aparently it must be since that happened to me in 9th grade already. or is it an age thing and i can just laugh at kids back then and be sure il keep with me who ive become? sorry this was more of a rant than a question but really any answers or comforting words would be apreciated.
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Good question.
Fact is, those of us who want to grown up and mature will grow leaps and bounds from middle school to high school and then again from leaving high school to leaving college. One of the things most of us are unaware of and that explains a whole lot is that while our bodies may have fully matured somewhere along that time line, our brains weren't done growing, maining the frontal part responsible for thinking things out and making the best decisions possible.. You did the right thing is relying on others as 'sounding boards' tossing out your questions or ideas to see what perhaps peers but also older adults think. You will find this a useful tool throughout much of life. The ultimate decision is always going to be yours. But you may be missing different angles or perspectives or consequences you have not thought of. My daughters are all in their 20s and while they need me less and less to give input, they are making better decisions as they grow older. So would you revert to being like a lost soul in college? Highly unlikely considering you've had some time to mature since 9th grade. Will you come up against challenging life situations? Yes. And you may have difficulty coming up with the best solution.
Never think it is wrong to ask for the opinions of those who've got more life experience. We can share our mistakes and how we now know what the warning signs are, or what to avoid. We can't go back and undo in our lives but are glad to do that for any of the younger people in our lives or who write in here., in hoped it will help them to glide through life with less major issues than we had.
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