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why does it hurt so much?
I have been broken up with 2 times in the same week. Why does it hurt so much? And by the same boy
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I'm guessing you're in high school.
No matter what kind of break up it is, whether is was a long relationship or a very short one, it's going to hurt. I mean, if you liked him and then you find out he doesn't like you as much as you liked him, it will hurt.
It hurts when someone just has a crush on someone and turns out they don't return those feelings.
When you're young, you're pretty much trying to figure out what you like and what you don't like in a partner. There was something there that he just wasn't feeling. He didn't handle it right, especially by breaking up with you twice in the same week. It's a bit immature.
So just hang it there. Consider this a learning experience.
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Hmm, that means the average length of 'dating' someone is just a few days like 3 or 4....and that is not enough time for either person to really find out more about each other, like what you like and don't like about a person. Hanging with and dating the opposite sex to learn who is most perfect for you, starts at young teen years and goes through college age. The idea is that someone you find attractive then is someone you have conversations with, and if you both still like each other enough to want to spend more time together, then you date, and later it becomes a more serious dating, steady dating which comes before long term committed relationships which can sometimes be a marriage.
Anywhere along the line, either person can decide this isn't the person for them. You didn't give your age but because of it being 2 breaks in a week I will guess you to be about 12-14 . Statistics for dating at the age show it to last a maximum of 5 months if they're lucky, most last a much shorter period of time.
At this age, people do not know who they really are, their wants and needs and goals and have even less clue as to want they need and want in a partner. A boyfriend is a real person, not some ornament like a new pair shoes or purse or nail art to be seen with as you walk down the street.
Boys at this age are going crazy with hormones and want to experience sex more than they want to really learn how a girl thinks and what she likes, etc. The reason you hurt is because you put too much importance on it. If not a single person could see you together with a guy, would you still want to be with him? There is some unwritten rule for teens that they MUST partner up with someone or theres something wrong with you. That is not true. There is no need to hurry into relationship just to feel good about yourself. Feel good and be a whole person first without a boy and you will attract the more mature boys in due time dear.
I would avoid the guy who can't make up his mind. If he comes back and wants to hang out with you, don't go for it. He will see how DESPERATE you are and know that he can say and do anything to you and you will not complain because you want a boyfriend so bad. These are the girls where the guy pesters them for sexting or real sex or is verbally or physically abusive and she caves in and allows it cus he says he will dump her again if she doesn't. You deserve way better than that, all girls do but not all of them are strong enough in how they feel about them selves, their self image and self esteem. I know it hurts. You;ll get over it. Then work on your self image dear. Eventually it will draw the right guy to you.
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