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need some serious career guidance ( am a doctor)
Ok so here it is; I am a Pakistani doc, I did my Med School and graduated in 2007, I did my housejob in 2008. I had been a good student of my class throughout Med School; though I wasent in the honors but I was still amongst the top 10 or 15 students and I never failed any subject, any semester, any exam.
Now after MBBS, in order to do residency, We have an exam called FCPS 1 (Fellow College of Physicians and Surgeons) which once you clear then only you can join any residency program otherwise you just end up working as a Medical Officer in different setups. Now I somehow haven't been able to clear the exam , I'll be giving it for the third time now. Because of all of this stress I had switched on to the Pharmaceutical sector with a career in Marketing and worked there for two years but it just wasent my thing. Though I got to travel a lot (both local and international), got a car from company and many other financial perks but I just wasent happy. I Quit work when I was expecting a couple of months to prepare again for the exam and gave it again in June which I didn't clear (this was the 2nd time). I am again preparing for it for 2014 Feb hoping I might nail it this time but you see somehow I am unable to retain stuff?. I try sooo hard, study at night but .... I feel like I have lost it ..... this makes me sooo sad........ and all my life all I wanted to do was to become a doctor and somehow that dream seems like shattering :( ... also because my 4 month old daughter doesn't give me any time at all to study and this makes me even more depressed and I don't have much of a help at home, my husband has a very busy career as a lawyer and though he tries its not much help and we don't have much of reliable daycare facilities here...I sometimes plan to give MRCP exams and though my husband and rest of the family is also very supportive but you see MRCP costs a lot..... what should I do?. Should I give this third attempt at this local residency exam?, should I save up money to give MRCP or should I just forget all this medical dream and go back to the pharma world (which I really don't want to )..... please help......
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I have never gone to college, never been part of anything to do with the medical or pharmaceutical fields. But if you want my views as a mom who raised 3 daughters, then read on.
Financially my husband said I had to work because we needed the income. Our first daughter went to daycare. I left for work in morning before husband. One morning, my daughter who's crib faced the parking lot, heard my car start and whipped open the curtains to look out the window and she cried as she saw me leaving. I can't tell you how much that was a stab of pain to a mothers heart. I cried the whole way to work. Eventually, we lost the daycare provider and could not find another no matter how hard we tried. I now got to be home with her. But I had missing the first time she crawled, and the first time she walked because I was at work. The daycare provider got to witness it instead. That hurt me too. The commitment the job you are seeking will need, will take away from time you have to give your daughter. While it is hard on a child to have a dad who isn't around much, it's harder when it is mom because mothers are nurturing and loving and teach their children things. A daycare provide will never feel a mothers love for your child. She may love children, but that will be missing for your child. Somehow we survived without the extra income. I had two more daughters, all which I got to be home with. I began to realize that many moms who stayed home with their kids found ways to bring in extra income. Some did the obvious and became daycare providers.
Since you want to be in the medical field, likely it boils down to a desire to be of help to people, you have a strong desire to nurture and heal people. I do too. Along lifes path, due to some experiences myself and with family in hospital, I lost faith in the medical community and turned to seeking natural health and other non traditonal forms of healing.
If you have a block, it could be because the background you have in learning was needed, but perhaps there is a future for you in natural healing. This taking a totally different schooling than you have had. I have studied Reiki and other energy healing. Have focused on reading up on Ayurvedic medicine, have experienced massage therapy, acupuncture, sound therapy such as singing bowls or gongs. I know many people who have their degrees in whatever specific natural medicine needs a degree. One gal had a bedroom in her home with a separate outside door entrance and thats where she saw patients for massage. I had a neighbor who did hair care and had her own in home salon.
When you consider taking a path to natural medicine where you won't need all the equipment and operating rooms and IV's and things a hospital offers, you can still being working in the field of health, working to try to help people achieve better health so they dont end up in the hospital.
With a supportive Husband and family. I am sure a relative wouldnt mind being in your home with child while you are in separate room with patients. And you schedule your own hours and can offer help to people at prices more affordable to them. It's just my idea. But it may not fit your personality and who you are.
I wish you the best though.
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