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Mixed Signals???
So there is this guy who I am very good friends with (he is a few years older than me) I have known him for a year now and he is confusing me so much! Before this happened i had an idea he might like me but I'm not sure any more. Ok so i was at this event awhile back and he kept touching me (in an appropriate way) like he kept holding my hand, wrapping an arm around me, hugging me etc. Like very touchy. I was totally ok with it though :). and he even kissed my head and was leaning on me and walking VERY close to me. So then i've been seeing him at a school camp thing and (He is VERY shy but comfortable with me i guess :D) and he's was more shy around me and awkward. and I am now the one who has to go up to him (except when i got back from a trip i was gone five days and he came up to me and hugged me and told me he was glad i was back.) and he's way more shy around me than usual... the thing is though (we text everyday)we kind of flirt when we text ( we are both shy) and i was at a football game and i was waiting to be picked up and he walked over to me and hugged me while i was on the ground and said he'll see me when school starts. so... What is up with him>?? He's acting all flirty and touching me and then he's super super shy.... What?? Please help, Thank you!!
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I don't see how it's mixed signals at all. It's completely obvious that he likes you. Guys that aren't interested won't be touching you, kissing your head, holding your hand, anything. Guys can still be shy and flirty at the same time. It's just his personality.
So yeah, he definitely likes you.
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Girl, that guy is crazy about you...no doubt about it because his body language is telling you. If he lapses a bit in the reach out and touch you thing, it may be he had a day of doubt that you are equally interested.
If I understand correctly....so far he is initiating all of this closeness and touch and you are accepting it. That should be enough to let him know you are interested in return but when two people are just learning about relating to the opposite sex and how to know this stuff, you both are not going to instinctively know this tho you might instinctively be doing the right things...in your mind, theres no knowledge yet of body language revealing interest so there is no connect.
He's not all that shy if he can reach out and hug you or hold hands. A person with a serious shyness phobia can't even do that. More likely he is someone who is slow to warm up to a person but once comfortable as he is with you, he opens up more and more until one day, hes as chatty and open as one of your outgoing extrovert friends.
So dont let that concern you.
I think he is waiting to see that you have the same level of interest in him. A guy shouldnt have to initiate all parts of a relationship. Thats lopsided and doesnt work in the real world in commited long term relationships.
So he's waiting for you to approach him first, grab for his hand first and say some things to encourage him. "Your hugs make me feel so special as a girl. When you pay this kind of attention to me, I love it and want more of it. Compliment him. Of course it has to be something you see and really like but an example might be, I love the color of your eyes, I like when you wear anything blue or when you wear your 'such and such' top cus it makes you look even more handsome. You need to learn how to feel comfortable touching him. I will post two sites. One that talks about body language in the article and the other is about how to find excuses to touch the guy. Good luck dear. So far he sounds like a very nice guy and will probably make a very good relationship partner.
It wouldn't hurt for you to tell him that he's your favorite guy out of all those you know at school or that you really like him a lot.
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shyness is the classic sign of someone liking you & all the signs add up.
maybe suggest you two hang out together on your own & see how it goes? he may come out of his shell a bit more if you get to know each other properly :)
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