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Crush? touch barrier? Sensei? help!
Ok so (please awnser the question i asked. I dont care if you think my crush is innapropriate etc etc etc. dont bash it! i will ignore you.) Now,i am seriously crushing on my jitsu sensei. he's a bit older than me but he's single and simply amazing! sweet, makes me feel safe etc. the re is no "touch barrier issue while we are training and are apartners as it is the nature of the sport to be in close and lots of... body contact. i always stay later after class, because my bus doesnt come until 1030 so there is no reason to walk to the bus stop and wait alone when i can stay at thje dojo a bit long... and talk to him *blushes*. he makes me laugh about the silliest stuff and we get a long really well. i trust him so much he is one of the few people i will allow to hip throw me. im stilll a novice but the plan is to grade in december. sometimes the group goes out for socials and stuff after the session and the entire jitsu community(international)is very touchy feely etc.We really are almost closer than a family. anyways
the issue is that once off the mats i sense a major "touch barrier" between me an my amazing sensei.and i would like to know a cute,flirty,
not obvious, and very tactful and inconspicuous way of breaking it so the flirting can go to the next level. please help
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It sounds like your sensei is trying to keep things professional. You can imagine that in an activity like that, touching from a lover would be distracting, and focus is important there. He has no touch barrier in training because it's part of his job as a trainer. That being said, it can be difficult to break the "touch barrier" with someone that's keeping it professional for a reason. Perhaps, a touch on the arm when he makes you laugh. Or bump against him with your shoulder. Although, you don't need to touch to flirt. Just talk to him, maybe sit,or stand, closer to him than you would normally. If he's interested, he will pick up on your flirting and respond.
Best wishes.
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