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A potential Friend??
OK So we had this basics for Marching thing for the Band and Guard. It was specifically for the Incoming Freshmen (I am a Freshman; 14/f) BTW I;m in the guard. I am a Second year vet (I have been in the Guard/Band for a full year and it's my second year) and I know how to march but Guard was required to come. Well I sort of ran into this guy there (at the high school) He's in my grade and in the band. He seems really cool and I'd like to become good friends with him. I have band camp in two days so I need advice on how to become friends with him. Thank you!
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A person can't force another person to become friends with them, it just naturally happens when they talkin to each other and find they have some things in common or like each others sense of humor or personality. So the only thing really needed is to talk a lot to the person.
So the real question is, what does a girl say to a guy in conversation? Well, what are some things you talk to girl friends about...other than makeup and cute clothing and guys? Haha Those topics probably wouldnt work with a guy. But you are in "Band" so a safe subject to start convo is how and why he choose the instrument he plays, what type of music, and what singers and bands does he like. Once that is all discussed, then "What are some of your other favorite things? Like whats your favorite type of foods? What kind of movies did you like, any particular actor /actresses you like? Then using music, do you think you will have a career in music someday or do you have some other vocation in mind. And that would lead to talk of college. If he gives answers but does not elaborate much with stories of examples, like "Well I always wanted to play the sax cus I have a grandpa who could and he would show off for me when i was little and i thought it was so awesome." When someone gives you a mini story like that. You now have something to base what you say next upon. Either you bring up a favorite story about your grandpa or grandparents, or tell him about something that you found so awesome and impressive when you were little. You dont have to fire question after question at him unless its like pulling teeth to get him to talk. While some are shy to start off, most will warm up slowly to the person so eventually they are having normal conversation. If on the otherhand, he is the loner type and doesnt like to talk at all, you'll not get anywhere with him. Although people like that just wouldn't end up in band to begin with. So enjoy your conversation and hopefully he'll respond well enough so you can be truthful and say, I have enjoyed talking to you, I'd like to do that more and get to know you better. And thats a good time to trade phone numbers. Good luck dear.
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