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I'm having problems with my parents and self esteem
K, So I don't really know where to start so lemme just dive right into it. My Mum is training to be a nurse and sometimes she stays up really late to finish or revise stuff and she never has time for me, not that I ever used to talk to her about stuff before that anyway. But I asked something small like, Do you wanna come and watch something with me, she would e=never have the time. But I think that's all just bull crap, she doesn't want to spend time with me and i know because Even when shes not doing homework or anything important, shell be texting or talking or watching eastenders and she'll never be interested in me and she''l say something like "later" but later just never seems to come. She says I should come for her If i ever want to talk but i have never talked to her about anything, I dont to anyone about anything, not even my bff's. which is terrible i know. Im an only child and i want a big sister who i can talk to anytime and who'll listen and have time for me. But the only thing I have half close to a sister or any type of sibling at all is my big cousin who is 37 and she makes me fell safe and confident around her and like i can tell her anything but its not fair coz i only ever get to see her like 2 times a year or so and she doesn't even live that far,, just 2 hours away. I'm always bored all the time and keep to myself, especially at school which especially when it comes to boys, I cant talk to any of them which is why every time I like one they get taken because I'm too late to even make eye contact. I mean WHO THE HELL IS THAT PATHETIC??
My dad is so mean and argumentative and judging and he NEVER listens to a single word I say because he obviously doesn't care. And even when I'm upset or EVEN CRYING the're so "busy" that they don't even notice! My dad never wants to spend time with me either. sometimes i ask for help with homework and all her= does is take a quick 2second glance then say "that look wayy too hard for me, im sure yu'll be able to work it out" and its so annoying. And sometimes im talking to him and i ask him what i just said and he cant even tell me. And ever since this stupid period began ive been having all these mood swings and personality and changed and i really hate it. It makes me beleive that call of suty is way more important to him than i am.
Sometimes I just hate myslef. And my life
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Listen, you're under alot of pressure.
Every other teenager is under pressure too. Ok, it may be different to your situation, but still its hard. Growing up is hard.
You have mentioned alot of issues here, so I will tackle them one by one.
1) The parents. Ok. You need futher help with emotional issues and your parents wont talk to you or be a listening ear. There are other people you can speak to if things get really tough. Some parents chose not to have that kind of 'friend' relationship with their child. You tried Kooth Counselling? Free chat online when you're in distress. You can't force your parents to be a listening ear, unfortunately. As you are growing up now, they'll expect you to be more independent like getting a part time job etc. Its hard, but for many people an aspect of growing up is losing that same contact they had with their parents.
2)The not helping with homework. Do you not have a study skills department at your school? Because most schools do, as a policy to help struggling kids. Why not contact your class teacher. I have just asked if I don't understand something in class, and trust me, they never tell you to go away. If you're stuck, tell the teacher. That's what they're paid for so make them earn their money's worth. Parents to try to help out, but its was a while ago since they were studying simulate nous fractions. You could also try the student room.
3) The mood swings. Now then, as you get older and later into your teens, you will have self esteem issues. Its sounds like you have a minor social anxiety issue. I have this to, its a pain right?!
You never said your age, but if your still in school, you can work on yourself to become much more confident. Perhaps then you wont need the support so much as well. Also at college/uni there is a counselling service, so you'll be able to go to that and get help.
4) You need to have a goal. Do you have a career ambition? If not, go get one. And volunteer in that sector etc. It'll take your mind off other issues in your life and will make you feel great about yourself, whilst also helping others and helping you to secure a job in the future.
I know its hard, this whole growing up thing. But instead of relying on support of your family, be like 'You know what, I am a confident young woman, and I can stand on my own two feet'.
Do't let anyone get you down,and remember nothing lasts forever, and this particular period of your life that makes you feel so distressed will soon enter a new, happier phase.
Sorry my advice was you long!!
~Take care~
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