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Am I right to feel this way?
Hi Razhie, I really admire the advice you give on the site, and was wondering if you could help me out.. I'm 21/f This week I got my blood taken because I'm feeling sick and may have mono. My appointment was at 7am. My boyfriend (of one year) knows I was freaking out about it, and said he would come with me for support. I was so happy for the support, but felt bad that the appointment was so early so I told him he didn't have to to go because of the unnecessary early time. I guess I was expecting him to say time wouldn't be an issue, as I would have done for him any day; instead he took me up on my offer. I didn't express my disappointment because I offered to opt him out of it, but I still feel upset with him about it. Am I right to feel this way? Or am I over reacting? Thanks.
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You are over-reacting, and you are blaming him because you gave him false information.
I don't mean you lied, or did anything so terribly wrong, but you told you him that he didn't have to go, when in fact would have been honest and true would be to say "I know it's really early, and that's part of why I so appreciate you coming with me."
It's not fair to blame him for believing you when you said he didn't need to come. In fact, it's pretty counter-productive. You want to have a boyfriend who can trust and believe in you when you tell him things are okay, or are not okay.
This is really a learning experience for you, not a something he needs to fix. You need not to be quite so differential and poliete, and instead be honest about what you want and what you are feeling. You needed to say "Thank you." rather than "You shouldn't have." if what you really felt what that he should have.
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