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He broke my trust (english is not first language)
Hi, im 21 years old girl. im loving him deeply. but he dumb me. he was very nice n was loving me but last 7 months he was cheated me. now i knw everything about him. but i still love him. i dont want to loss him but i really dont want to loss my self respect. feeling very upset n lonely. i wont b able to handle my self. please suggest me how can i solve this metter n how teach him that waht im facing. how can i get him back with that love.
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You need to give yourself some time. He broke your trust by cheating on you for the last 7 months. You do still love him, that's fine but you should stay with him even if you love him.
Relationships don't work without trust. You will always be wondering what he's doing or if he's cheating on you.
So don't stay with him. Find someone else who won't cheat on you. You deserve that.
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You need first to understand the difference between love and lust. Lust is just a taking care of the bodys normal need for sexual release and the attraction is only skin deep, that means the only interest is in what the girl looks like on the out side. Love goes beyond the attraction to looks to who she is on the inside. He is attracted to her personality, how she thinks and acts, her beliefs and values.
I know thats the kind of guy you want. The one you love is not that kind of man. When we go into a relationship, no matter how good or how bad it is, there is a tie womens hearts seem to make with the guy. He doesnt deserve that love. You need to tell yourself that you can find someone better, Until you can convince your subconscious mind of this, you will always be wanting him.
You already said you don't want to lose your self respect, so stop seeing him. Make a list of the things you did not like about him like the lying, cheating, and make a list of the things you did like. Dating a man is all about having short learning experiences with each one...of what you did like and what you will not tolerate in a relationship. With the next one, you try to recognize the warning signs of the bad things you are trying to avoid in a guy. The warning signs are always there, often hard to recognize because of our inexperience at this age but always there. So learn a little more with each guy you date and the moment there is behavior that you will not tolerate, that means you have to lose self respect, then let the guy go and move on to the next. As you get better at recognizing the bad things in a man and back away from him, you will find the right one for you.
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