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complicated guy
My question is why is he acting so wishy washy with me. Not wanting anything but kissing me when we drink and wanting a blow job if he doesn't want to have sex apparently. I've never had a guy be so back and forth with me like that.
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It could be that he has no interest in sex with a girl. He could be gay and has not admitted it to himself. A gay person can have been married or tried the hetero thing but found they just don't like it.
If he has to drink to feel free enough to just kiss...something is wrong.
Getting drunk to kiss or have sex is not a good idea. It means the people are consciously forcing themselves into that position or action. Doing this goes against the position of where their subconscious mind is at. This is the mind that helps you dream, where are your feelings and emotions come from, your subconscious mind can fight what your conscious mind is forcing your body to do. Obviously he is not just shy or something but has other issues if not gay. He could have some bizarre phobia's about germs and such and needs to be next to unconscious with alcohol to force himself to go through the few motions he does.
If I were you, I wouldn't put so much effort into getting things going with him.
If I understand right you feel the need to drink too every time you hang out socially. You miss out a lot on life. You can not work hard on getting to know a person well enough to discover if they will work out for a lifetime mate. If you did luck out into stumbling accidently across a good guy, then without both people putting in maximum effort to make the relationship work while sober, then it is not going to survive. Thats life...thats how it works. If you are not ready to be serious about finding a healthy relationship and prefer to do the mindless thing for a while longer, then you will have no one to blame but yourself if you end up not happy in the future. Don't look just at this guy but look at yourself hon...we all have to do that to get success in relationship. I had to learn to really know myself and my needs and my wants and who I was at core, my fears, my strengths, before I could attract the right guy. Hopefully you dont put in 30 yrs like I did with the wrong guy and have 3 kids with him.
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