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I'm confused about my sexuality
I'm a 16 year old girl and just recently I came out as being bi-sexual but I don't think that's all, I know for a fact i'm not straight.
With me I can sort of get close to a guy, I can like one, find one attractive and even do things with them but I end up having the urge to push them away.I never want to spend alone time with a guy, never really want to talk to him. with a girl its different, I always want to be around her, I want to talk to her, do things with her. I've talked to my close friends about this and they all think I may be a lesbian, the thing that is making me so confused about this is.. I can kiss a guy with no problem but in the end I end up pushing him away like its nothing.I know i still have alot of time to figure this out. Its just so stressful for me.
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Hi!
It is really important to remember that when you are young, it is hard to determine what your exact sexual orientation is. Even when you are 18, 19 or even in your 20's, (or sometimes 30's!) it might still be difficult. Like you said, you've got lots of time to figure it out.
You sound to me like you are bi-sexual, because you've said that you can be attracted to both guys and girls, and can want to kiss both, and do things with both.
But you also said that its different with girls because you want to spend time with them, and not with guys. Did you like the personalities of the girls you have been with in the past more than the guys? Obviously you'd want to spend more time with people who you actually get along with and like being with, whether they're a boy or a girl. Or is it that you want to spend more time with the girls because you find that you're more physically attracted to them? Like the physical attraction lasts longer?
Or there is also the possibility that you have trouble trusting guys, or accepting your feelings for guys. In your words you "push them away like it is nothing" - are you pushing them away LIKE it is nothing or because it actually IS nothing? By that I mean: are you treating it like nothing, refusing to admit that you like him, forcing yourself away from him, OR is it actually nothing, and you aren't attracted to him any more, and your feelings disappear quickly with guys? It is important to figure this out for yourself, because you might be pushing guys away for reasons other than a lack of physical attraction.
Good luck and inbox me if you need more help or need me to explain something I have said :)
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