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What is it like to visit someone in jail? Is my dad enablign my mother wh
my mom is currently in jail for the next eight months for financial related crimes. My dad as asked if I want to visit her because she might appreciate a visit and it could be an "Educational experience" (what does that mean?). I have no problem with my mom, other than this misdeed she did she was a good mother and never did anything to me. But I don't know if I should subject myself to a jail environment just to see her for a little while.
also, what is it like to live in jail? I am kind of curious what my mother's day to day doings are now. I was thinking of asking her myself but it probably wouldn't be nice to make her talk about that
in fact it seems my dad is enabling my mother. Before she had to go my dad helped her find information on what you should do before entering jail and made sre we will all did something together on the day before she goes. I don't know if this is enabling but I have been told it is
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okay first off is it prison or jail. jail is nothing if your mother goes to prison then be worried but jail. its easy to goto jail
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Last question first. The definition of enabling is to supply the means, knowledge or opportunity. The family outing the day before your mother reported to jail does not fit that definition. Most likely your father gave your mother a day to hold on to while incarcerated.
As to your second question . This question really needs to be answered by someone who has spent time in jail. Being in jail means you have no privileges other than what they may give you or you earn. It is a lot like being in school only very much more strict. You are told when to wake up, when to bath, when to eat, when to work, when and how much free time you may have, and when to sleep. Each day is like the last very regimented.
This is done for two reason. The biggest reason is this is suppose to be how the staff controls the prison. The second is to teach the inmates self-control and discipline the lack of which is seen as the reason they are there.
Talking with your mother will give you a much better picture of what life in prison/jail is really like for her.
As to your first question: "because she might appreciate a visit and it could be an Educational experience."
As to the "Educational experience." Just how much you may learn from a visit is questionable as you will not see the inside of the prison, only the visitors room which is nothing like the prison itself.
As I told you last time you wrote. You will go through a security check much like the ones they do at the airport. Then you will be allowed into the visitors area. If it is an open area mom will be brought in by a guard and allowed to sit at a table with you Some jails even have picnic areas though this is an exception. There will be guards in the room monitoring the prisoners and you.
Some prisons/Jails do not allow direct contact with outsiders and you will talk to mom through a glass window through an interphone system. These phones are monitored by the guards so be careful what you say so not to get mom in trouble.
As for mom appreciating your visit, I'm sure she would. Mom made a mistake and she is paying for that mistake just as you have when she punished you for doing something wrong. Being in jail is societies way of giving her a time out. Even so she is still your mom and I'm sure she still loves you, cares for you and wants to be involved in your life to the extent that she can.
When she has paid for her mistake she will be released and she will come home and hopefully be able to pick up her life with you and your dad where she left off.
As to subjecting yourself to a jail environment? Your not. You will not see the inside of the jail, only the visitors room which in most cases will be a lot like the cafeteria in school.
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