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well today he came over to my house and just started yell at me did u have fun with him last nite when he already new i was with my mom so I told him I was done with all of his games and if he was to come over to my house its to only see the kids so since i broke up with him when he dose come see the kids should i just stay n my room and not talk to him untell I get over him or show him it dose not bother me that we r not together
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So how old are your children?
I think right now you need to act civil with him. Not because your trying to show him it doesn't bother you but because you are trying to set a good example for your kids. Also because it's traumatizing to have parent s that scream and can't be in the same room together.
Tell him that it is unacceptable for him to scream and be violent to you in front of the kids. You are both adults and you are obviously going to continue seeing each other for a very long time because you have children together. His anger, jealousy and emotional problems are none of your business! You are broken up and he needs to stop involving you in that. Letting your children know that they have two parents that love them is more important then his and your problems. I don't know how old your children are but break ups can be hard on them. They may blame themselves, they may worry that they will be caught in the hate between you two forever. I remember when my parents divorced I felt like they had to see each other because of me and they would always be yelling and screaming because of me. It made me feel guilty and bad about myself. Eventually it really pushed me away from my parents.
It's important that you level with your X and get him on board with making the kids feel comfortable and okay. This is the number one priority. This means you two are civil around each other! You don't run away and hide and he doesn't loose his temper. It may be too late for your relationship together but it's not too late for your relationship with your kids!!!! Tell him if he needs to talk to you or you two need to have a fight about something you need to plan to meet at a coffee shop or somewhere but you will not do it in front of the kids.
You both need to care about them more then you right now.
Good luck honey and keep your head on straight.
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