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I understand you suggest that I take my daughter to get counseling to deal with her mother being in jail, I think however she is handling it well. She seems to have accepted "OK my mother committed a crime and is serving her punishiment, and she will be out in a year" and is now just living her life like normal. Isn't that a better way of handing the situation instead of being hysterical about it?
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There is probably more to this then you are telling me, this would not be unusual. I base my advice on what you tell me, what I can read between the lines and my years of knowledge as a senior citizen. If I need advice in answering any question I chose to answer I either research the answer on the web or I have a host of friends and acquaintances in various fields and professions I can call upon for their input.
For instance, if I remember correctly, you told me your wife went to jail for check fraud. An acquaintance of mine is a Circuit Court Judge. In conversation with him he told me that was a very light sentence for this crime and was surprised your wife was not given a suspended sentence, probation and community service instead. He suspected there was more to this than what I was aware of; I greed with him. You have never told me how you feel about what your wife did; why she told you or why you suspect she did it if she hasn't told you.
As I've said to you before I don’t know you or your daughter and this is the only way I will communicate with you. So with the information at hand I make my decision on what or how to advise you. In your case my concern at first and still is primarily for your daughter. My concern is for when she is not around you, when she is in school or out doing other things. Children at this age can be horrible to one another. Her mother is in jail and the other kids in school will if they don’t already know find out about it. I would expect her to be teased unmercifully about this. This is why I suggested you find her a psychologist to speak with. Here again I do not know your daughter but depending on how you are handling your wife’s incarceration or she is viewing your handling, your daughter may be putting up a strong front for you.
I can’t say one way or another as I’m not there to observe her nor have I known her prior to your wife going to jail. A skilled therapist can get through all this and find out if your daughter is truly okay with everything. The fact that you continue to write and ask about this also tells me you suspect, maybe in the back of your mind, that things are not quite right.
Frankly I think you both should see a therapist and let the therapist guide you in a conversation about all this. I can’t do this for you and I honestly feel this is something that will benefit both of you. I have given you all the advice I can but I am not a psychologist or any other type of professional who can help you. I can only advise you on what I would do in your situation.
Since I truly believe you need to seek professional guidance with this I cannot give you any further advice on this matter.
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