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Teacher trouble
Hey,
So I inboxed you with this question because you have given me good advice before :)
So, the thing is theres this teacher at college. He's a man like 58 ish.
He knows that I have an anxiety issue, and all my teachers were told to like be mindful I had it, but he's really taking his role too seriously.
He has taken me out of class twice now for like half an hour (highly embarrassing) to his little office and told me to 'avoid the demons in my head' and all this-he's blown up the issue totally.
Then he came to talk to me in the exam room when we were all about to start, and I was getting funny 'whats going on with you looks' from my class mates. Then he approaches me at lunch-has done this twice now.
So I saw him outside college yesterday, and today he came to my table at lunch and said 'Saw you yesterday, doing research were we' (relating to my subject)
But, you know, I find him a bit too concerned with me. What should I do? I told my personal tutor this and he just laughed. I mean-it's not normal for a teacher to approach a pupil when their eating lunch is it?!
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Is it normal for a teacher to approach a student at lunch in college or university? Sure. I was on a first name basis with a few of my teachers, and had lunch and/or drink with them a handful of times.
So although you've got really legitimate reasons to be uncomfortable with this teacher's behaviour overall, you are at a point in your life where teachers, employers and other people in authority might actually socialize a bit with you. That much is normal (it can be awkward, but it's normal.) That's probably why it gave your tutor a chuckle.
As far as what you should do about the rest of the behaviour, I think my biggest question for you, is this:
How much longer in your school year? 2 months? Weeks?
Can you ride this out and avoid his classes next year?
If you can ride out this well-meaning, but completely misplaced 'helpfulness' for the final few weeks, and then make sure not to be his student again, that is probably the easiest way to deal.
The second point is that you CAN say NO. You aren't in high school anymore. When a professor asks to speak with you in their office, you can say "Look unless this is about my classwork, I really need to get going." or "If we need to chat, can schedule a time?" You can say "Thanks for your concern, but I really getting all the support I need. I'll let you know if I need to talk." and get up and leave.
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He IS being too concerned with you. There might be lots of reasons. Maybe someone in his life suffered from anxiety, so he has his own baggage. Maybe he just doesn't know how to cope, and is making some poor judgment calls, but whatever the reason, you can stand up for yourself and determine what kind of teacher-student relationship you want to have - including not being in his class in the future.
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