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Be More Outgoing
I have been texting this boy since May of 8th grade. It is now April in our Freshman year. It's been an ongoing conversation for almost a year now.. its just about random stuff and its usually a few texts every other day (him not responding right away) and so the point is we NEVER talk in person.. real awkward. i want to be one of his good friends that he can just talk to and walk with in the halls. we have a class together and do track and i see him in the halls all the time.. we are in different friend groups too . i feel like hes losing interest and I'm just a girl at his disposal he can text when he feels like it. how can i be more outgoing and just have the confidence to just talk to him. i don't know what to say in person! the year is almost ending and i want to make a statement before summer comes! i really like him and want to be a good friend of his in person.. yeah its complicated..
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So you want to have the confidence to be able to start talking to him in person?
Well that means focusing on yourself. To be able to talk to him, you're going to have to work how you view yourself and know that it will be worth it.
Whenever I talk to someone about their self esteem or working with their confidence I normally tell them first is to not compare themselves to anyone else. You're you, and that's who you are always going to be. If you want to change, it's your job to do it. It's not good to have girls looking at other girls wishing they could be like them. It doesn't help at all.
Don't put yourself down either. There will always be other people who criticize you, so you don't have to do it to yourself. You have to love yourself.
Accept every compliment. Don't shrug it off.
Spend your time doing things you love and things that you are good at. This naturally increases our self confidence.
Lastly, you have to push through your anxiety and fear. So if you want to talk to him, the only thing that is stopping you is fear.
So make an effort every day. If you see him, smile and wave. Eventually build it up to where you're saying hi and then small talk like "how are you?" "how was class?" ect, and building it up to where you can start talking to him normally.
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It's hard to break habits. Have you thought about texting him about it? Once he knows what you're thinking and feeling, it won't be just you trying to make the effort to talk in person. You won't feel so alone and up against the world. Who knows, maybe he's thinking the same thing as you right now. It would suck if he ignored you or said that he wasn't interested and turned away from you completely, but at least then you'd know. You wouldn't be stringing yourself along wishing for something that's just not going to happen. It's a good sign that he's not showing interest in other girls. Maybe he's just shy, like, why does he have to be the one to break the ice? It's not any easier for him to do it! My advice to you is to tell him some of the things you've said here through text. Lay it all out there and see what happens. You could lose him, but that would happen eventually if he's really not interested in you. Better have it happen now than waste any more time. And who knows, maybe it'll spark something great over the summer.
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