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I get extremely nervous around my crushes
So I get extremely nervous around my crushes. Always have and it gets REALLY bad the more I like them. Theres this one guy that I used to like that just passing them in the hallways Id get all hot and nervous and couldnt talk right. I know its normal to get nervous but it just becomes so unbearable that I can't even talk or look them in the eye or I just avoid them so I dont have to deal with feeling that way. And I hate it so much and I dont want that I wanna be able to look them in the eye and have good convos w/ them and not feel incredibly hot and stupid and ugly and that I dont have to feel like the only way I can kiss someone is if im drunk or something idfk. Just please help, how can I be normal and do things other ppl can without feeling like im a piece a shit and without having to get all red and hot and nervous and all that? Btw im 15 and I guess you can say im self conscious..really self conscious most of the times..and I'm pretty sure my crush likes me too but still I just get so nervous and for some reason I feel even more self conscious cause I know theyre paying attention to me more and ugh I just need help. And ik I should face my fears and all that but again the self conscious thing. I feel stupid when I talk and I feel like im ugly and just shitty and its horrible aghh help:(
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Ok, so at least you know what your problem is. It's insecurity and lack of self confidence. So that's what you need to work on. Obviously, it's easier said than done but as long as you try, you'll get better and start loving yourself. I mean the guy already notices you right?
First, don't compare yourself to other people.
Don't criticize yourself.
Try to accept every compliment you get. Don't brush it off as stupid. Try to see them as genuinely meant.
You have to keep reminding yourself this all the time until it actually changes how you feel.
Start writing down things you accomplish.
Then start doing things you love. Find things you are good at. People become more themselves when they are doing things they love. It just naturally increases your self confidence.
This might be extremely corny but just be you. But honestly, you have one life and if you don't do what you want to do or be what you want to be, then you just miss out.
While working with your insecurities, be patient. Start slowly and they will go away soon.
Good luck, I hope everything works out for you.
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