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"First: Does she know her mother is going to jail and why? If so what are her feelings about her mother going to jail.
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she seems kind of nonchalant about this, which I think is OK. Though one time she did say it was kind of cool that her mother was going to jail since now she will now be listening to orders from other people and being locked in. Which was kind of weird since she and her mother had a pretty good relationship with no animosity or anything. Maybe it was a just a joke or just cracking some humor at the situation?
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I'm somewhat concerned by your daughters response; "it was kind of cool that her mother was going to jail since now she will now be listening to orders from other people and being locked in." This is the type of answer I would expect her to give to another child who may be taunting her about her mother.
I am not a psychologist or a child psychologist though her answer does seem inappropriate to be given to her father. My previous suggestions are still appropriate not to force her to see her mom in jail. Take her if she wants to go but don't force her to go.
First you need to go alone to see what the visitation environment is like. Is it an open environment where you will be allowed to hold hands, hug and kiss? Or will your wife be behind a glass partition where you talk on the phone? You need to know this so you can prepare your daughter for what she will see and what she can and cannot do. The last thing you want is to cause trouble for her mother during a visitation.
I would also recommend you find a good child psychologist for your daughter to talk to. This is someone she can speak openly to that will keep her trust and help her with anything that may be bothering her about all this, or anything else. The psychologist while not being able to tell you what they talk about will be able to tell you how you can help your daughter.
I believe this is important to do for your daughter as I said; her response to you was not what I would expect her to say to you. I feel she has some deeper issues she is not or will not discuss with you.
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