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I don't know what to do with incredibly difficult people
Hi. So Im having trouble dealing with a difficult person.
Facts:
- we are under the same student organization
- he is the current vice president of the org
- everyone thinks he is irresponsible and somehow very unprofessional
- I am running for his position for the next term
- He is running for president
- Currently, I handled an event.
- He commented that I am not a responsible person. He said it to another person, not me.
So basically that's it. Im very angry at this person and I don't know what to do.
I dont know if I should confront him. If i confront him im afraid i might say something out of the line because i can be a really unstable person sometimes. I might even punch him in the face if i get too annoyed.
It's just so frustrating that he thinks he's right and I am wrong. WHen everyone thinks he's not.
How should I handle this?!
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Let it slide off your back like water on a duck. If you ever want to be student council president you have to learn how to have a thick skin and what to let go and what not. This is just who he is--an asshole apparently for lack of a better term. Forget about him.
Let his attitude bury him and his chances next term and run solely on your own accomplishments. He will do himself in eventually. As far as punching him and confronting him goes DON'T. It brings you down to his level and why get suspended for it, possibly charged, and lose any chance of election in the end.
All your life you will be dealing with people like him. You just have to be who you are and mind your business and let the other person unravel and be seen as the wrong guy or irresponsible to lead. That's what a real leader does. Be level-headed here and keep your head no matter what antics he's up to. Be the better man or woman as the case may be.
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You should ignore it.
You haven't given too much information here, but from what you have given you, you should ignore this.
You heard gossip, and pretty benign gossip at that. Confronting someone over something relatively lame thing that you heard through the grapevine is never a good idea.
Confronting him wont change the fact that he thinks he is right. What confronting him might do, is make you look foolish and petty. You know you aren't going to 'out-crazy' him, and that he doesn't really care how he comes across, so confronting him can't possibly have a positive outcome for you.
Leaving it be lets you look like the bigger person, and helps confirm to those around both of you the impression they already have: He is irresponsible and unprofessional. You are calm and reasonable.
So don't risk sinking to his level.
Calling someone on something nasty or unkind they say to your face can be very important to holding on to your dignity and position. Chasing someone down because of something you heard someone else say they said is pretty much always a bad idea.
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