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My girlfriends kid
Ok I know im not her father but she lets her kid get away with murder she even disrespects her own mom. This kid is bad really bad now me I will not tolerate it one bit my own kids dint talk to me no kids at that. She has her moments though she says she loves me one minute then the next she hates me. This kid makes me wanna break up with my gf , every time I go to talk with her she tells me to shut up an leave her alone. What shall I do
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My answer to your question depends on some information you haven't provided. Information such as the girls age and your intentions towards her mother.
One thing is for sure all children need discipline and to learn to respect not only one another but themselves and adults. From the little you have written this girl is lacking may be in all 3 areas.
There are times though when the type of behavior you have written about is also a cry for help. How long has her mother been a single parent? Is her father still in the picture.? How amicable is the relationship between the two parents if the father is still in the picture. These could all be relevant to the child's behavior if the father is still in the picture and the child feel caught in the middle. Especially the part where you wrote,"she says she loves me one minute then the next she hates me." This would be typical of a child caught between two parents. By telling you she loves you she may fell she is disrespecting or minimizing her feelings for her father.
What I have written above is all conjecture since the information to make it fact is missing. If any of it is true. Then family counselling is in order for her and her parents and you s well if you see yourself being long term in the family dynamic here.
If the father is not in the picture this too could be the reason for her behavior. Again how you handle this is determined by what your plans are for a future with your girlfriend. If you plan to have a long term relationship which may include marriage at some point. Then you need to step in and provide the foundation this child needs. This starts by having a conversation with your girlfriend on the subject of the girls unacceptable behavior. Your offer to help and may also include counselling for the child.
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