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I do and dont want to have oral sex because im scared
I do and dont want to have oral sex with my boyfriend but im scared! the reasons i dont want to is because im afraid he wont like it or think i smell or something. But then again hes the one encouraging it and asking me if im comfortable doing it. Is it okay to do that with him? what can i do to calm my nerves? will i like it? will he like it?
Oh and im 15 and my boyfriend is 16
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Rule of thumb about any sex act: only do it when you're 100% on board with doing it.
As for the smell issue, if you've showered that day you should be okay unless you've sweat a lot or something. The best time is when you're freshly showered, of course.
If there is any kind of smell down there it is usually due to an easy to treat bacterial infection. If your boyfriend is like me, though, after the first time he does it he won't want to stop.
Also, you will need to communicate to him how you want him to do it using information gleaned from when you masturbated. Tell him if you want your clit sucked (many women can't take that kind of intense stimulation, others love it), and howmuch pressure you want with his tongue against your clit. He might also want to add some g spot stimulation to that with his fingers.
Finally, remember that you guys are still figuring each other out, so view it as a "let's see what happens we do this" kind of thing. Eventually, the quality of it will improve as you learn more about each other.
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First and foremost when it comes to sex: BOTH PARTNERS MUST BE CONSENTING OR IT IS NOT DONE. This means if one of you wants to try something, such as oral sex and one of you is reluctant for any reason, you don't do it.
Now more to the point of your question. At your ages I would suggest you wait. You are both a little to young for this type of sex act. One of the reasons for my saying this is that I think you will both enjoy it and that could lead to intercourse which is something you two are way to young to be having.
Making out, fingering and hand-jobs should remain the extent of your sexual experiences for now. It is safe and will not lead to pregnancy. Once you undress it is very easy to move on to the next stage of sex. Fingering and hand-jobs can be done fully clothed. Clothing is your protection against unwanted pregnancy.
As for the other things you wrote about. They are really non issues. As I said I believe when the time is right you will both like it, that I am very sure of. As for your smell or scent. All women have a natural scent. As long as you bath regularly no man will be offended by this scent or taste. I'm just suggesting, strongly that you wait until you are older, more mature and capable of controlling a situation from going further than it should.
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If you are doubting it, then i say wait! you don't want to do something that you may regret later...
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Lots of girls worry about vaginal odour when it comes to receiving oral sex from their boyfriends. Just make sure you're nice and fresh and clean, don't use scented body sprays or deodorants. Not necessary at all. Then stop worrying, lay back and ENJOY it! If your worried about the natural scent of your juices, forget it. Most blokes are NOT put off by that, exactly the opposite in fact. If he's initiating it, all the better. He must be one of the 'most guys'. If he takes plenty of time over you and you kind of 'point' him at just the right spots I'm fairly confident in saying yes, you WILL like it...a lot! As for nerves, well there's nothing to be nervous about really. There's no chance of pregnancy of course, nothing to 'go wrong' at all in fact. It can go on as long as you're both happy with too, unlike sex which of course is all over really when your boyfriend comes. As for him enjoying it...well, I absolutely LOVE doing it. The pleasure for a guy I suppose is knowing that he's making YOU feel pretty special. So take the opportunity to let him know he is. It should add a lot to your relationship. So definitley 'OK to do' all round. Have fun...and stop worrying!
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