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Does the friend of the guy i am seeing like me more than a friend?
Okay I am 18 year old female. Please read this all I promise it is interesting. So there is this guy I have been kinda seeing for the past month. His name is Jay. So when i first met jay he showed complete interest in me. I would see him almost everyday. He would text me to meet up with him and have lunch. We were usually hanging around the same spot on campus on tuesdays and thursdays so it was easy to find one another. He invited me over to hang out with his whole group of friends. They are like one big family. It is crazy how close everyone is. I really like the group of friends they are very welcoming and they invite me to all the events they have. Every tuesday night they have a night where everyone just hangs out together. I usually go there every night. But there has been a change in jay. he has become more distant. less invites for lunch. i haven't seen him on tuesdays and thursdays. I still hang out with his friends though because i kinda feel included in the group in a way..so anyways i am invited by jays friend to this party that is going on. I haven't seen jay all week. The night of the party is here. I expect to get a text by jay asking if i would like to meet up with him before going to the party. but no. I don't think he'd care if i went to the party or not. If it wasn't for his friend who invited me to the party I don't think jay would have told me about it. Anyways, there is jay's roommate/friend named chris. Let me tell you a funny story about chris. He is actually friends with one of my girlfriends who i just started getting close with and her name is chloe. When i told her about jay and chris she is like oh i know chris! What a small world huh? anyways this ties in to the story later. So the night of the party I get a text from chris saying "i hope you are coming to the party tonight"..I found that strange but really nice because at least someone cared if i was coming. Jay never asks me if i am coming or not. Whenever I am at school and i bump into chris, he is always asking me if I am going to poetry night or paint night. He seems to care if i am coming or not. Another thing i noticed is that once i was introduced to poetry night i wanted to go there every week. Jay doesnt write poetry but he did come one time i went but ever since i started going chris started going to poetry night. I find it strange that i see chris more often than i see jay...So at the party I see jay and i refuse to go up to him first. Finally, he comes up to me but he is never next to me. I am not needy at all. Well i can be, but i know when to give people space. I think i am giving jay too much space considering at the party this girl was all over him and getting really close to his face. she layed her head on him and was trying to hold his hand. He didnt flirt back but he didn't really stop it. He was just talking to her back and smiling. So jay tells me he is going to the basement to go see the band play. i follow him and i almost fall down the stairs. jay didn't notice a thing but chris comes up behind me and helps me up and asks me if i am okay. That stuck to me because here i am following this guy around who seems to not care while this other guy does. It is almost 3 am and i want to go home. it is raining and campus is not always safe. i decide to leave and jay doesn't even offer to walk me home, he doesn't care what happens to me. I bet chris would have cared but he was passed out on the couch. lol. So anyways days pass by i see chris and he asks me if i want to trip on mescaline with him. I say sure. We meet up later that day at 8 pm and we stayed up until 5 am and we passed out in the recording studio at the arts center in school. The whole time we were together he would always be staring at me. He had this weird stare that i couldn't describe, like he was amused! But when i asked him "why are you looking at me like that!" he says "i look at everyone like that"..and he had to draw a portrait for homework so he drew one of me and i decided to draw one of him. We couldn't stop laughing. I know we were under the influence but boy he made me laugh so much. We talked so much. We listened to music and sang the lyrics together, he'd get so into it. He made me feel like a little child it was magical. I was getting sick and i had the sniffles he'd say to me "aw you look so sad, it looks like you are crying when you are looking down and sniffling, it makes me sad" and then we ended up bumping into this guy who is crushing on me and chris was like "that guy is creepy, i don't trust him" and im like "but i made dinner plans with him" and he is like "well cancel those plans i don't trust him." He kept teasing me about the creepy dude and he couldn't stop bringing him up...then 5 am rolled around and we passed out in the recording studio. We didn't touch or anything. we were seperate but i feel like there has to be that distance since i am supposedly dating his friend jay..but there is one thing he said that makes me think i am looking too deep into this and maybe he does only see me as a friend..i was asking him if i was being annoying because i was talking a lot and he says "no if you were annoying i'd tell you"and i say "really, i could never just tell someone straight up that they are annoying" and he says "well i already like you as a friend,so i could tell you."..and also sometimes he'll bring up our friend chloe like when we were tripping he said "if chloe was here she'd laugh hysterically at us."..so who knows. oh yeah and one more thing. Me and chloe end up going to this party and we invite chris to come,at first he wasn't going to come but once he realizes we were in the ghetto he text me asking me the address and told me to not go outside until he gets there. i though that was sweet since that showed he cared about our safety.
there are plenty of other things that shows he cares but i'll leave it at that! Thank you for reading!
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He could but it seems like he might just be super nice because you're his best friends girlfriend. If you care about your boyfriend, you should be putting space between you and Chris. You wouldn't like it if he was interested or flirting with one of your friends.
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