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parents are not sympathetic for me
i am tighten up by responsibilities. i dont feel free because of my parents. the problem is that they love me but don't understand. my mood influences my studies and the whole life.i cannot get down to my studies because i feel there is something wrong with the profession i have chosen. should i just leave everything or go on living hard life with parents not understanding? and doing what i dislike?
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As parents we always try to have our children's best interest at heart. That does not mean we are always right in the advice we offer them.
If you are over the age of 18 you are free to pick and chose the courses you wish to take at college. If your under 18 then negotiations with your parents need to take place. The good thing is you will be over 18 before you graduate college and their is away around the arguments with your parents over which course they may want you or are forcing you to take.
Most colleges still require a core level of classes which are for the most part the same for almost all courses of study. There is some flexibility built in for specific course for certain areas of study but core course are just about equal.
For the first two year it is not required to declare a major, so don't. Take the liberal arts core course and whatever specific course you can get for the major you want to follow during your first two years at college. This leaves the last two years to concentrate on the core courses which are going to require the fullest of your attention anyway. So by getting the core course as much out of the way as you can you not only satisfy the colleges requirements. You keep mom and dad off your back until you are old enough to legally make your own decision without them being able to interfere.
Once you reach the age of 18 the school, college that is public primary school is different, will not listen to them any more in regard to course choices. The only weapon your parents have to force compliance would be if they are paying the bills.
As I wrote to someone else with a very similar question. Happiness does not revolve around money. You can make all the money there is to make and still be unhappy in a chosen career field. Or you can work in a field you like and make enough money to be comfortable and be very happy.
Your are the one that ultimately has to live with whatever choices you make or accept today. I know it may be hard to stand up to your parents as it seems disrespectful. It is your future that is at stake here.
As a parent I do not believe it is disrespectful to tell them their desires and yours just are not the same. That you do not see yourself living the life they have planned for you and you are going to have to follow what you believe is the career path that you will enjoy the most.
There will be some fall out maybe even some
bribery involved on the part of your parents to get you to follow their advice. You will have to deal with this.
My best advice is to follow your gut and you mind as I have said you are the one that ultimately has to live with the choices you make today.
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Your parents will not always understand everything about you and they won't always accept your point of view. However, you need to do what's best for you. If you don't like the profession you're going into, change it before you graduate. Working isn't fun and can be tedious. You shouldn't get into a career you don't like before you even start.
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