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A Lonely College Student.
Hello! I am a sophomore transfer student and I am so lost. I have not made ANY friends. I am a violin major and so a TON of my time goes to that. I joined a sorority and I absolutely love it. On the other hand, I have not made ANY friends. The girls in my sorority are really nice to me to my face, but when I am in meeting I end up just standing there awkwardly while the girls bunch up into groups. I am shy and have dealt with some SERIOUS family issues and still do. I don't necessarily have family to go to. I do have a boyfriend whom I have been dating for quite some time, but he is at a different college. I feel like I am not good enough. I try to display myself as best I can and I don't THINK I am ugly. I am not sure what to do. I am invisible. When I do pair up with people, they just talk amongst themselves. I want to have friends and I want to be able to be silly and to be there for someone. I am sick and tired of being lonely. My mom doesn't even want to have anything to do with me. I feel useless and tired of sitting in my dorm room watching Gossip Girl, studying, or practicing. I want to get involved in my sorority and in my violin life. I want to be known and I want to be loved by my sisters in my sorority. GENUINELY. Unlike my family, I want to make a positive impact on someone's life. I am on the verge of giving up.
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
The thing with groups like sororities is that the people don't necessarily have much in common with you. You're just a bunch of girls who live together, so it's not guaranteed that you'll all be besties.
You need to find people you can spend time with. Try joining a club, or strike up a conversation with someone in class. Start or join a study group or a practice group. The great thing about making friends is that it's a snowball effect. Make one and you meet their friends, and so on and so forth. Don't be afraid to try new things.
As for your sorority sisters, a great way to get in with people is to be helpful. Is there an event coming up that you can assist with? Is one of them struggling in a class that you're acing or have already taken? Get involved with the group in any way you can.
It takes effort, especially if you're not naturally outgoing. Sometimes it requires a lot of pushing to force yourself to get out there, but it's always worth it.
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